Is there any satisfactory alternative to the Western-epistemological method in our youth ministry?

If ever you needed evidence that click-bait isn’t really my thing, this title might be it. So to the four of you who clicked on this, hi! This is a very brief summary of my thoughts on something I’ve been both pondering for a while – namely, how should we model to young people how to think in what methods we use to teach them. We’ll get to juicier, more applicable thoughts in later posts (or you can find some old stuff here, here, here, and here!), but if you’re interested in the dry, note-form background, here it is. This has also been at the heart of some of my lectures on youth work and philosophy. To the two of you who are left, thanks for sticking around!

While studying Philosophy with Oxford University I wrote a paper entitled ‘Is there any satisfactory alternative to epistemological scepticism’. My answer was largely yes, but no, but yes, but no, but. So here we are.

Youth ministry comes with the expectation of teaching within conversational frameworks. Open Bible studies, Q&As, small groups, one-to-ones are all more common practice in youth ministry than regular church ministry. There’s an enormous plethora of resources available to help us do these practices well, however, in my experience they suffer from the simple problem of not being personal. None of these resources – as good as they are – can predict the attitudes and personalities of the people in my groups on any given day.

What’s needed, therefore, is not a new resource, but rather a new method. Most of our resources are based in a classical Western analytic method. Each question has a narrowly defined parameter for an answer, and the answers all point together towards an increasingly specific point. Teaching times are designed to have a cutting edge every time.

What is an epistemological method?

For starters, I’ve been quietly and glibly calling myself a ‘lay epistemologist’ for quite a few years. The subject that fascinates me more than any other is ‘what is thought’, and how should we, do we, could we, think. Epistemology then, at its most basic, is the theory of knowledge. How we obtain and distinguish between types of knowledge (as truth, facts, opinions, hyperbole, applicable, abstract etc.), is the place of our epistemological method – or the practical filter, or lens that we use to view and process cognitive stimulus. So, you see/perceive something – run it through our method – and then decide what to think as a result.

Most of us are only really familiar with the analytic method – so much so that you might believe it’s the only natural, de facto, method. Therefore, we’ll start there.

Analytical methodology

The Western analytic methodology (as made famous by philosophers such as Russell, Moore, Wittgenstein, Reichenbach, Frege, and Searle) follows exactly the pattern seen in our resources and most common teaching styles. It begins with a lot of information on the table, then slowly whittles it down, disregarding ideas and views, until only one ‘indisputable’ thought remains. It breaks ideas down into concepts, turns concepts into premises, and uses premises to prop up a single conclusion. It’s the basis of deductive logic. The key values of this method, therefore, are precision, clarity, and actionable qualities. This looks for ‘proofs’ and tests hypothesises in a largely mathematical fashion. This is usually the same pattern we follow in our talks: exegeting a piece of scripture down until we have a single sentence application.

I’m not against this idea out of hand. It certainly has its place. The problem, however, is that a lot of what gets cleared off the table is useful – and can often include the nuances needed to understand the more complex dramas of a passage or of human life more generally. Also, ideas are not always well-prepared to be reconceptualised into purely premise-type forms. The concept, although helpful as a way of distilling or summarising information, or as a way of moving quickly to action points, can miss out on a huge amount of truth.

When I first went to Bible College, everything we were taught came through this particular methodology which could make one assume that the Bible was written with pure logic and reductionist form in mind. This makes poetry, story, metaphor – frankly a lot of the Bible’s literature – feel rather redundant.

The analytic method makes us feel safe as it is supported by the idea that truth is singular, and that we have all the necessarily tools needed to distil it. It gives us the power. This isn’t just a Bible College thing as almost all of the English-speaking world has learned everything in this way since the 17th Century. It’s largely underwritten into all our major community processes: Education, politics, law, culture, entertainment. Most of us evaluate everything based on this method (some being more naturally gifted at it than others) without even realising that it’s a method not a de facto natural state of reasoning.

So, what can we do?

Other potential methodologies

Eastern/Oriental

We could, instead, reach across the globe to an Eastern methodology (Confucius, Rumi, Laozi) where all ideas remain on the table and arriving at limiting conclusions are almost entirely discouraged. The focus tends to be how can you live your best life rather than what is true. Considering the nature of ministry – there’s a lot to respect here. Whereas Western, analytical philosophy breaks ideas into pieces and travels in a linear way towards a single idea, Eastern philosophy tries to grasp the whole, seeing ideas in a circular, repetitive way.

I certainly have a lot of patience for the Eastern method because it sees things as a unity, rather than breaking things up into segmented parts. Most of nature requires togetherness rather than separation, and things work in large eco systems, not separated echo chambers. Wholistic medicine is making enormous leaps forward using this approach, as is unifying, cross-discipline education. These are based in the Eastern method of approaching ideas.

The issue is that Eastern philosophy as a method is just less interested in truth (or at least in facts) and can have us going around in circles indefinitely. As a method it can at least turn us inwards so far that we lose our connections to the world outside or any notion of God’s plan for the future.

Continental

We could delve then into the phenomenology and existentialism prevalent in the Continental method (Hegel, Schopenhauer, Nietzsche, Sartre, Foucault, Heidegger, and Deleuze), looking instead at mostly personal experience and spending more time in purely abstract, a priori thought experiments in the hope at reaching more subjective yet personal applications.

As a general rule, analytic methodology reaches for mathematics, logic and the science, whereas Continental looks at the overlap of history, space, time, culture, language and experience. Kant, famously said that natural sciences rely on ‘pre-theoretical substrate of experience’ thus cannot be seen as the most accurate way of arriving at truth.

I like Continental approaches to thinking, as they allow us much more time in abstract complexities, rather than tying us down to minimalistic, highly questionable, reductionist soundbites. They also look for an ‘ultimate’ that exists beyond the ability of human reasoning, leaving us with less scope for the idol of human knowledge.

The problem, however, is the subjective nature of this as a method means it often overrides, bypasses, or side-lines absolute truth or authority. Not to mention you could spend long days swimming around in purely dizzying epistemological mush – leaving everyone in a small group feeling lost, confused and vulnerable.

Rabbinic

This is an odd one, because it sits really as a subset of the Eastern approach, and – if you wanted to be really pedantic – it’s more of a hermeneutic key than an epistemological method. The rabbinic method depends on a question-driven technique that orbits an eventual answer but requires scriptural knowledge to get there. It’s also known as textual reasoning or discourse. Questions are asked, then answered with questions that lead to and from various parts of the Torah, letting the question, the answer, and the text all dialogue together to arrive – hopefully – as deeper interpretations.

I like this a lot! It allows the Word of God to speak particularly into the situations of people in our groups, while still holding it accountable to itself. It also opens things up more than closing them down, and keeps pointing back to the text. That’s quite cool! If you know what you’re doing (by which I mean you at least have a solid grasp of the Bible, and know how to mediate conversation) then this method can work immensely well in small groups or one-to-ones, as well as think-tanks and seminar groups.

This method, however, also comes with its problems – especially in a culture where knowledge of the Bible is practically non-existent, and simply answering questions with questions is categorised as chronic avoidance. It also places a lot of trust in the ‘rabbi’ (or group facilitator), giving them arbitration authority over what’s true or objectionable.

Socratic

Similar to the rabbinic method (in fact it probably largely informed it), is the Socratic method. This is again odd, because those in the analytic tradition would at least claim this as part of their approach. It is, after all, based in Plato – the Father of philosophy and the Hero (along with Aristotle) of all Western thinking.

The Socratic method is largely dialectic, relying on answering deeper and more specific questions, opening options up, while at the same time narrowing ideas down. It usually starts with a hypothesis or truth statement, then probes it by asking a series of challenges. It’s largely interrogative demanding the why behind every answer and exploring how far the why-answer goes. It chips away (like the analytic method) but does so with far more exploration and open-handedness.

This is a tool which I use a lot in Bible studies with young people. We explore concepts and probe ideas with a series of why questions and challenges. It allows us to explore nuance, apply directly, and remove taboos around what we should and shouldn’t talk about – or know.

The problem with this is less about whether it helps us arrive at truth, and more how it does that. It becomes very hard to falsify a truth claim when ideas or suggestion are constantly thrown back indiscriminately at the learner. This method makes it very easy to manipulate people into certain contortions of truth and can easily drain the room of the curiosity it needs to feed it. Questions become weaponised, and all dialogue becomes defensive dialogue.

Did we find an alternative?

All these methods have problems, so what do we do then? Are we stuck with the analytic method which gets to at least some truth, even if it glibly bypasses much of it, and is somewhat accountable, even if it’s only really accountable to our interpretations?

The answer, like in many things, is awareness, moderation and variety; not blinkered reliance without examination. We should be aware of our methodological biases as we teach and draw truth out from others. We should employ strategies from different epistemological methods (which could be as simple as asking both closed and open questions), drawing threads together – remembering that the method is a way to get at truth, the method itself is not necessarily truth.

We should be less defensive, therefore, of our methodologies. We should ultimately rely on God for his direct and indirect revelations, remember that He is so much bigger than our abilities to reason and that he inhabits our thoughts – He doesn’t just inform them.

For those on the neo-Reformed end of the theological spectrum (who I imagine would have the most problem with this), I’d ask them to consider the exegetical approaches of our heroes, such as Calvin, Melanchthon, Zwingli, and Luther. They reached wide and broad, rarely closed things down, and drew massively complex threads together with several conclusions, not just one. They reached for God to overrule their interpretations, and left things up for him to examine, inform, and convict.

So, what’s the best method? It’s using all of them as tools, with an underlying faith in God to uphold His truth, supported by a constant language of prayer. Seems legit to me.

Therefor youth workers need to be critical thinkers and conversational mediators – not just presenters of resources or leaders of material. Honed skills will always outperform the best resources.

A 1hr a day reading list to make 2020 a year of theology

Did you ever wish you knew more about theology or wanted to brush up on the basics? Maybe you’ve been a youth worker for years, but you skipped training and now you feel like you’re playing catchup? If you start the year right, then you can work in some new reading habits that – with a little commitment – should help you exit 2020 with a firmer grasp on Theology, the Bible, and Youth Ministry.

There’s so much you can read, and the internet is a maze of muddled advice and opinion-heavy black holes.  The aim of this post is to cut through some of that and give you a good place to start.

This is by no means a ‘definitive’ list, but it does include a fair few books that many Bible Colleges and Seminaries have on their first year list. It’s not meant to be a final word, but a helpful dotted line to follow.

The hope is to give you a roughly 1hr a day, 5 days a week reading list that will last you the whole year (with 2-4 weeks off somewhere depending on your reading speed).

This list is made up of four areas – starting with the Bible. Beyond that I’ve added three other types of book: Classical, Theory and Practice. The books are not listed in any particular order, however there is a ‘ * ‘ against those that I think are the more essential reads.

You can buy many of these books used on Amazon, but you might find the easier thing to do is take out a Library subscription somewhere and get them to order books for you. If you’re close to a University, then finding a College Library that uses the Heritage system will be your easiest bet.

Remember to check out what’s available as Audiobooks too.

The Bible

If you want to grasp any kind of theology better, then you really do need to start with the Bible. It takes about an hour a day to read the Bible in three months, so I’m going to suggest that half your daily reading allocation for the entire year is the Bible itself – meaning you’ll read all 66 books of the Scriptures twice through in the year.

My instinct is to begin with 20 minutes in the Old Testament, and 10 minutes in the New Testament. That could be three 10-minute sittings a day. Remember too, that the whole Bible is in Audiobook form for free online.

I’d recommend the first time through that you start to read a long-hand translation that you’re familiar with (NIV, CEV, NLT, ERV, GNB, etc.) followed by a slightly more structural translation (ESV, NRSV, NET, ASV, etc.). If you find the time then I’d suggest re-reading proverbs in the MSG version at some point too.

As you go through – reference the introductory page of each biblical book in How to Read the Bible Book by Book by Gordon Fee.

Old Testament

Start with the Pentateuch (Gen. – Deut.), then the first part of the History Books (Jos. – 2 Kngs.), then read through the Psalms & Wisdom Literature (Job, Prov. Eccl. Songs.). Finally go back to the History Books (1 Chron. – Est.), before finishing with the Prophets (Is. – Mal.).

New Testament

Go through it mostly in order, however perhaps read Jn. Before Lk. So, you can read Lk. and Acts together as they were designed to be.

Classical

So much contemporary theology is built upon these stones, and they tend to say more per line than modern books do in a few pages. So, take these slow. This is the small list, but if you were limited to just a few things to read – this is where I’d start.

*Book 1 of Calvin’s Institutes (Free online)

On the Incarnation – St. Athanaisius (Free online – quick read)

The Reformed Pastor – Richard Baxter (Free online)

The Mortification of Sin – John Owen

The Bruised Reed – Richard Sibbes

Books 1-5 of On The Trinity – St. Augustine (Free online)

Books 11 and 22 of City of God – St. Augustine (Free online).

*Parts 1-2 of The Religious Affections – Jonathan Edwards (0.49p on Kindle)

The Republic – Plato (easy to listen to in 3-4hrs it at 1.25 speed on YouTube)

The Nicomachean Ethics – Aristotle (6 hours at 1.25 speed on YouTube)

 

Theory

These books give you a bit more applicable insight to big questions about theology, philosophy, mission, and history.

*The Cross of Christ – John Stott

Part 1 of Systematic Theology v.1 – Katherine Sonderegger

*Knowing God – Jim Packer

*Know the Truth – Bruce Milne

Chs. 8, 10 and 11 of Doctrine – Mark Driscoll and Gerry Breshears

Part 3 of Doctrine of The Knowledge of God – John Frame

The Pleasures of God – John Piper

The Doctrine of God – Gerald Bray

*The Passion of Jesus Christ – John Piper (you can use this as a daily meditation for a while – or get your home group to go through it).

Listening to The Spirit In The Text – Gordon Fee

*Dig Deeper – Andrew Sach & Nigel Beynon

Holiness – J.C. Ryle

Part 2 and 3 of The Gagging of God – Don Carson

Mere Christianity – C.S. Lewis

The Universe Next Door – James Sire

The Difficult Doctrine of The Love Of God – Don Carson

Think – Simon Blackburn

*Gospel and Kingdom – Graeme Goldsworthy

*Turning Points – Mark Noll

History of Theology – Bengt Hägglund

 

Practice

These are mostly youth work books, and none of them should take more than 6hrs to read. Many of these are also available through audio book.

*Death By Love – Mark Driscoll

The Wounded Healer – Henri Nouman

No Perfect People Allowed – John Burke

*Christian Youth Work – Ashton & Moon

*The Contemplative Pastor – Eugene Peterson

Apologetics to The Glory of God – John Frame

Sustainable Youth Ministry – Mark DeVries

*Rebooted: Reclaiming youth ministry for the long haul – a biblical framework – Tim Gough

Models for Youth Ministry – Steve Griffiths

*Contemplative Youth Ministry – Mark Yaconelli

Parenting Children for a life of Confidence – Rachel Turner

5 Things to Pray for Your Kids – Melissa Kruger

Trained in the Fear of God – Randy Stinson & Timothy Paul Jones

The Justice Calling – Kristen Deede Johnson & Bethany Hanke Hoang

 

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An open letter to a smart person who likes being a smart person from another smart person who also likes being a smart person.

Dear smart person

Hello smart person, I’m a smart person too. Isn’t that great? I have a high IQ, top marks, and regularly use the words ‘paradigm’ and ‘praxis’ in clever sounding sentences. I also own a fern.

I really like being a smart person – it’s a significant part of my identity. When I was growing up, I was bullied for being ginger, skinny, and mostly ginger. I also knew, however, that I was smarter than the bullies. This is why on my last day of High School I purposely crashed the school computer network, including all of their accounts.

When my ‘smartness’ gets shaken, however, so does everything else about me – like a house of cards built on a bowl of jelly. When people around me don’t ‘get it’, or reduce ideas down to minimal complexity for the sake of a smart-sounding soundbite, I want to throw my abacus right out of the pram! When other smarter people out-smart me by their clearly superior smartness, then I want to throw myself out the pram.

Sometimes it’s just hard being smart. Here, therefore, are a few tough life lessons for fellow smart people from a smart person.

1. Smart doesn’t need to equal arrogance. I find this really hard (see everything above)! However, you can dial up one without dialling up the other. It’s possible – trust me!

1, again… but said better. Smart people don’t actually need to be jerks.

2. A smart thing to do is to surround yourself with people who are smarter than you. A really smart thing to do is surround yourself with people who are smarter than you and disagree with you. If you’re the smartest person in the room, you probably need to be in a different room.

3. Being smart has very little to do with being right. It has a lot to do with being considered. Being smart has even less to do with being in charge.

π. Being smart sometimes makes you very stupid. And that’s ok.

4. Properly smart people ask more questions than they give answers. They also like to think about their answers before they give them.

5. Smart people usually like nuance not absolutes.

6 through 10. Smart linguistic thinking is different to smart critical thinking, which is different to smart social understanding, which is different from smart proactive thinking, which is different from smart reactive thinking. This is different from smart abstract thinking, which is different from smart mechanical analytical thinking. This is different to smart thinking under pressure, which is different to smart problem solving, which is different from smart creative solution finding (honestly). This is different from smart observing clearly, which is different from smart tracking ideas clearly, which is different from smart opening ideas up, which is different from smart narrowing results down. This is different from smart doing well with details, which is different from smart being a ‘big picture person’. You get it? Being smart doesn’t mean being ‘smart.’

11. Smart thinking has as much to do with the theory and method of thinking (epistemology) as it does to the contents of what is being thought. It’s smart to know that not everybody does this.

12. Smart people need to be patient! Very patient. Silly Patient.

13. Smart people understand that others are probably being very patient with them.

14. Smart people will be very lonely people if they can’t learn to be compassionate people. They will also be lonely if they can’t develop a – sometimes silly and pointless – sense of humour and know when to switch off.

15. Smart people know when to switch off.

16. Smart people know when to switch off.

17. Smart people know there is someone smarter than them somewhere in the world, and will find that smarter person, kill them, and eat their brains. Really smart people know there is someone smarter than them somewhere – and will deal with it.

18. Smart people know that they don’t need everyone to know they are a smart person (I’m really working on this… although this letter probably isn’t helping).

19. Smart people don’t need to make other people feel stupid. In fact, if they’re being smart then they really shouldn’t.

20. Smart people use their brains to change the world along with the rest of the world who are using their own gifts. They don’t just comment on it from their keyboard in their pyjamas.

That reminds me, I’ve got stuff to do.

Thanks folks!

Sincerely

Smart person.

 

 

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Are we supposed to ‘feel’ loved to ‘be’ loved?

In 1970, a film adaptation of Erich Segal’s novel ‘Love Story’ made famous the line ‘love means never having to say you’re sorry’, but it took another 34 years and an 8-year-old called Lisa Simpson to point out ‘No it doesn’t! This movie is drivel!’ Little legend Lisa.

Can you think of anything more manipulative than the classic cliché, ‘if you really loved me then you would…’? It’s the catchphrase of the abuser, the passive-aggressive turn of the knife, and the ultimate hammer blow of peer-pressure.

That little line alone has probably caused more regret and relational ruin than the entire collected works of J.D. Salinger and August Strindberg combined!

But have we made the philosophy behind this idea acceptable? Do we also judge (and sometimes flat out reject) the very existence of someone’s genuine love by our own emotive litmus tests.

If a tree falls in the woods

There is a growing trend that says perception is reality. Love, therefore, gets held to ransom by the loved. It’s measured in the eye of the beholder.

Imagine for a second that we decided that something was only food if we liked its taste. I really don’t like taste of celery, but because I don’t like it doesn’t make it not food. I really do like the taste of PlayDoh, but I don’t think that makes the neon pink putty into food, just because I have weird taste buds.

The classic is ‘if a tree falls in the woods, but no one was around to hear it, did it actually make a sound?’ It’s an interesting question, and one that places individualistic humanity over and above the reality of any and all outside experiences. It’s pretty selfish, and rather me-centric, but isn’t that just like us?

When it comes to love, we have begun to say things like ‘if I didn’t feel it right, then you didn’t do it right!’ Or more commonly, ‘unless you approve of me then you can’t really love me.’ When did approval get into this game?

There is a big difference between acceptance and approval. Whereas God might accept me just as I am, he doesn’t necessarily approve of all I am. It’s completely legitimate to have acceptance without approval. I think God probably wants me to eat celery and not PlayDoh! This doesn’t mean that God doesn’t love me though.

My wife accepts me leaving my underwear on the bathroom floor, it doesn’t mean she approves of it. Helping a friend with a drug addiction needs to come with acceptance of the person, but not approval of the habit, otherwise it’s just enabling.

If I said that you can’t love me because you don’t accept me – when what I really mean is approve of me – I think I would be just a tad manipulative. I would be holding your love ransom to my subjective and emotive standard. This just isn’t fair.

What about all the feels?

The resulting subversively emerging assumption (try saying that five times faster) is that making people feel loved is exactly what we were trying to conjure up all along. Of course, it’s entirely possibly to make someone feel loved, but not actually love them at all – but we’re getting ahead of ourselves.

Let’s start with the goodness in this before we entirely chew the idea up and spit it out.

  • If you’re making no effort to understand the people that you are apparently loving, then are you really making an effort to love them?
  • If you’re holding people enslaved to your ideas of what they should and shouldn’t be before you love them, is it really love?
  • If you’re totally indifferent to how someone feels in response to your ‘loving’ language and or actions, then are you really sure that ‘loving’ is what you are doing?

Just saying ‘I’m loving you’ without any accountability to the person we’re loving isn’t enough. They might feel it or not feel it, but frankly we might be getting it wrong anyway.

It’s always worth taking an emotional inventory before we push too hard on the ‘but I’m misunderstood’ button. Feeling loved, after all, is at least part of what we’re hoping for when we love someone. At least it should be.

This issue goes both ways, but is the feeling the whole story? No. It’s not even on the first page.

Are we loving wrong when they don’t ‘feel it’?

If people don’t feel loved by our love, would it necessarily mean that we’re loving those people ‘wrong’, or that our love is in some way defective, damaged, or deficient? Would it be unfledged or immature?

Let’s think about this for a moment. Have you ever done a loving thing that was then unfortunately taken in the wrong way? Have you ever been genuinely loving but the one you loved took it as something other than love? If you’re a parent, I imagine you can think of all kinds of examples!

Is it loving, for instance, to make your kids eat their greens, take baths, go to school, do their homework, or turn off their xbox after fifteen straight hours of looking like a zombie? Is it loving to watch out for who they are friends with, what they’re watching on TV, or who talking to on the internet? Is it loving to sometimes tell them ‘no’ or to discipline them when they cross a line?

Are there also times when a person we’re loving just won’t remember our loving actions? Is it, for instance, loving to pick up a drunk person from the floor and get them into a taxi home if they don’t remember that you did it? What about giving money to a charity that works with street children in Guatemala. The kids might ‘feel’ loved by the direct staff workers and volunteers, but they might not feel loved by the anonymous donor.

Thinking now of this in youth ministry, is it loving to tell young people about what the Bible says, even when it flies in the teeth about what they want? Is it loving to caution them about promiscuity, drug use, lying, or disrespecting their parents? Is it loving to talk to them about sin, God’s wrath or Hell?

Of course, it matters how you do all these things, but do we really expect people will always feel loved when we love them – is that realistic of fair?

Put another way, what would happen to our relationships with these people if we kept changing what we did in order to make sure they always felt loved. Would it always be in their best interests?

What is love, really?

Many in our culture believe that love is primarily and essentially a feeling. That is its crux, basis and bottom line. Five decades of Hollywood romance has taught us this.

Love and feelings do often overlap, of course. Love can give us all of the feels! It’s a great descriptive word to use for the warm fuzzies and we often identify the feeling of ‘love’ when good things have happened. We feel love at a funeral and we feel love at a wedding – it’s an important descriptor for complicated emotions.

So, love can be descriptive, but does that make it a feeling in and of itself?

Although love can be a descriptor for a complicated set of powerful emotions, the word itself in English is historically a verb. Love is an action, it’s something that we do. Even in New Testament Greek, the four words ἀγάπη, ἔρως, φιλία, and στοργή can be both nouns and verbs, and often mean both together.

When we love someone then, we don’t simply ‘feel’ towards them with some kind spasmodic force. Feelings may accompany what we do, but they are not the whole. When we love somebody we serve them, we help them, we lift them up, we support them, we stand with them, we are present to them, and we protect them. Occasionally we might even withdraw from them.

Sometimes we lovingly do loving things for people that are best for them even if they won’t like them or recognise them as ‘love’. My wife is still trying to ‘lovingly’ make me see a dentist.

Where do ‘love languages’ feature in this?

This is a really interesting question. Gary Chapman’s ‘love languages’ books became a growing phenomenon in the Church throughout the last two decades, disseminating across Christian literature.

There’s an awful lot of important things to learn about how people give and receive love in these ideas. Understanding love languages as a part of personality types can help us communicate better with people and be more sympathetic. They are not the whole story though and need to be balanced with a much fuller philosophy of who people are and what love is.

I would strongly suggest reading about love languages but keep that in check with reading something like Don Carson’s fabulous little book, ‘The Difficult Doctrine of the Love of God.’

What about God?

God tells us that he disciplines those he loves. He reminds us of this exactly because often we don’t feel loved when He does (Pr. 3:12; Heb. 12:4-12). Is God’s loving discipline somehow defective? Does God need to readdress his understanding of our love languages? Of course not!

God is love after all (1 Jn. 4:7-12), and we should never accuse Him of not being so just because we didn’t ‘feel’ it at any given time.

We hope that the people we love will always feel loved – of course we do! There doesn’t have to be a dichotomy between the two. However, one doesn’t guarantee the other. We can’t hold our own loving actions captive to someone else’s feelings.

If in doubt, we should do the loving thing, however it is taken.

 

Is critical thinking the same as overthinking? Some self-indulgent epistemological musings.

Sometimes critical thinking is ignored, shunned, mocked, or worse, flat out rejected as overthinking. However, in a world of fake news, tabloid drama, and social media reporting – critical thinking just couldn’t be more important. Dismissing genuine critical engagement with ideas as overthinking is more than biting the hand that feeds, it’s covering it in ketchup first.

I’ve been accused of overthinking many times – and at least fourteen-point-six-two-percent of those times it’s been true. I am a critical thinker, and I’m an over-thinker. I’m a muser, and I’m a worrier. I evaluate hard, and I panic hard! As Nike’s famous slogan says: Just do it… and freak out a lot over it while you’re at it.

There is, however, a significant difference between critical thinking and over thinking, and equating them as one and the same can do some real violence to truth.

We need to process the world carefully – and we need to teach our kids to do the same. So, let’s give these ideas some critical thought… and try not to overthink it!

What’s the difference?

Starting with definitions, critical thinking is applying slow and deliberate questioning to a given idea. It carefully dissects, deconstructs, and reconstructs a given proposition, moving it through stages of doubt and dialogue. It usually follows some kind of objective method, or at least asks a series of probing questions. It challenges and it pokes. Critical thinking – at least for it to work best – requires us to suspend our beliefs to some degree.

Over thinking, however, is trying desperately to make something work the way we think it should.

So overthinking is the weird one here. We often think of overthinking as just getting stuck in a web of extraneous detail, giving ourselves headaches, and subsequently needing a stiff drink or a good boxset-a-thon. Overthinking, we would say, is what keeps us awake and ties us in knots. We see overthinking as over-complicating an issue, thus muddying the waters and losing the clarity.

That, however, is not strictly overthinking – it’s just poor thinking.

Thinking crudely, shoddily, weakly, negligently, or unskilfully are all traits of being human. And it sucks! Sometimes we get bored, sometimes we’re just tired, or need to pee. Sometimes our computers just run out of mental ram or need an emotional update. And, awkward but true, some computers just run better than others for certain tasks.

You can totally get swallowed up in a sticky web of uneconomic thought processes – but this is just not the same as when people mistakenly call critical thinking over thinking.

Agenda-driven overthinking

In reality, overthinking has an agenda, or – put another way – it puts the cart before the horse.

Overthinking starts with a hypothesis and then, rather than testing it, it tries to blindly prove it, bending all data to fit it, and rejecting all data against it. This kind of overthinking clutches at straws, gets (quite literally) mentally hysterical, and loses reason to emotion dressed up in clever sounding prose. It’s usually at this point in a debate, that the increasingly stuck ‘over-thinker’ accuses the critical thinker of over thinking. Go figure. This, btw, is one of the many reasons why debates are such a horribly poor tool to arrive at truth.

Overthinking can also be driven by fear. Worries that something could happen become the subversive agenda of the overthinker, so staying up late at night running possibilities around your head. That too, however, is still agenda-driven – even if in the negative. Usually the best way out of this is to surrender the agenda, rather than digging in. But oh boy does that take some emotional maturity and – I don’t know about you – but I wasn’t taught how to do that in school.

The showstopper conversational killer

Oftentimes, trying to properly evaluate an issue using critical engagement in order to arrive at a careful, or even more nuanced opinion, is simply rejected by the broad-brush conversation stopper: ‘Man, you’re just overthinking it!’

What do you say after that? ‘No, sir, I’m just trying to think carefully and constructively about the issue?’ Good luck. The roadblock is now up, and any further reasoning will be dismissed, filtered cavalierly through the ‘overthinking it’ lens.

A personal parable

I was once told that I was overthinking by suggesting the context of pagan worship practices had something to tell us about the classically interpreted ‘homosexuality passages.’ As proper worship contrasted against idolatrous worship is the backdrop of both Lev. 18 and Rom. 2, I felt that this might have been important to consider when looking at the verses within it – whichever way one comes down on the issue.

I wasn’t necessarily in disagreement with my accusers’ conclusions, however, they told me flat out that I was overthinking, and thus probably wrong. They believed it was black-and-white, and that the original context shouldn’t factor into the interpretation if it could possibly soften or slightly redirect our classical reading. They didn’t want their strong convictions nuanced by burdensome grey areas; at least not while they felt ‘on the spot.’

I actually think it was they who were guilty of overthinking by rejecting data that didn’t fit into their established opinions. If the issue lined up with a different set of convictions, I imagine they wouldn’t have responded the way they did. They would talk context all day, for instance, if someone drew a similar black-and-white application out of slavery in the Bible; but that wasn’t the issue on the table, and it wasn’t the direction of their agenda.

This is exactly the issue though, it’s our established opinions that need to be temporarily suspended when thinking critically. It’s OK, God won’t stop being God, the world won’t fall apart, and they’ll still be there when finish.

I think what was happening in my conversation was that the person was receiving new information on the fly, wasn’t able to process it safely, and didn’t want to lose any ground. That’s fair – and it’s also human. They lashed out from their own overthinking by accusing me of the same.

That’s what overthinking is, a tenuous house of cards built in the wrong direction and without a foundation, and unable to support its weight in critical conversation. Straw men will fall all day to overthinking, but a real independent dialogue partner won’t. Something has to give.

The battle for truth in conversations

Exegesis should never be held to ransom by our hard-headed opinions. Truth should never have to defend itself against emotional violence dressed up in a logic-suit. That’s why critical thinking is so essential.

The big difference is that overthinking comes with baggage. It has an axe to grind, a dragon to slay, or a point to prove. Overthinking is also human, it comes with stories, history, and experiences that can’t be so easily shaken. Learning to think critically in the wake of our own fragile and burdensome cognitive humanity is just hard work – however it is a skill that needs to be developed, and we owe it to the world to try.

Critical thinking attempts to suspend as much subjective assumptions as possible and arrive at the table as neutral as possible. As cold as that sounds, it’s actually this which gives the real ground for compassion and humanity in dialogue. Think about it:

  • Real critical thinking in conversation requires room for processing time.
  • Real critical thinking in conversation requires genuine active listening and real conversation. Remember that active listening is taught as the temporary ‘suspension of judgement’.
  • Real critical thinking in conversation requires genuine understanding for the person you are talking to, not just the category of opinion they hold.
  • Real critical thinking in conversation requires more colours than just black and white.
  • Real critical thinking in conversation requires movement, nuance and subtlety.
  • Real critical thinking in conversation requires an observance of the journey, not just the consequences.
  • Real critical thinking in conversation requires time, understanding, movement, and great care.
  • Real critical thinking in conversation remembers that we’re’re not God, and that suspending opinions and truth doesn’t make the world fall down.

The epistemological dance between two critical thinkers

I’m a huge believer that critical thinking provides a real epistemological romance. There is a dance to be had between two independent people who disagree but possess actual ability to sharpen, inform, and even disagree in a way that genuinely builds up.

I think we, as evangelical Christians, can be a bit rubbish at genuine critical thinking. It’s one of the many reasons that were so tribalistic. But just maybe if we put down our guns and our axes for a minute, grabbed some perspective and some compassion, we might find so much more communication between our hearts and our brains – then maybe we’ll connect better with other people’s hearts and brains. Then maybe – just maybe – we’ll stop overthinking, and dig ourselves out of this increasingly polarising, tribal rut.

So, let’s ask more questions than we give answers.
Let’s stay teachable and pliable.
Let’s trust God rather than our own compounded and collected opinions.
Let’s reach wider and dig deeper.
Let’s not assume we are the smartest people in the room.
Let’s not have practice arguments with straw men while talking to ourselves in the car.
Let’s not rush truth.
Let’s talk to humans as humans.
Let’s ditch the Western tradition of debate.
Let’s dance together with real brain and heart power.
Let’s think critically.

Overthought rant over.

 

 

Did you enjoy this self indulgent ramble about how we think and talk? Well it’s a bit of a bugbear of mine, so you might enjoy a few other places of venting on it too:

– Are you addicted to controversy?
– Ethics, Critical Thinking, and Youth Ministry
– Epistemology of Youth Ministry

And one by my wife

– Phenomenology, Faith, and Young People

 

Ethics, Critical Thinking, and Youth Ministry

I remember first reading Mere Christianity by CS Lewis when I was in my late teens. His opening ‘but that’s my orange segment!’ gambit inspired me to think more clearly about morality and ethics in relationship to my faith.

Fast forward a couple of years and I’m sat in my first ethics lecture a bible college hearing Dr. David Field’s three golden rules for ethical thinking. They were:

  1. Life is complicated
  2. The Bible is sufficient
  3. The alternatives are bankrupt

The next three months in these lectures were the most awe-inspiring time in my academic career. Ever since then I’ve been trying to explore one big question in my youth projects: Does Jesus work in real life?

 

Getting the juices going

Today, I find that there is nothing more invigorating for conversation in a youth club than a good ethical dilemma. Facilitated conversations about morality and God’s plan for humanities’ maturity is guaranteed to get even the most apathetic young person engaging with passion they didn’t even know they had.

What new rules would you give to the Internet? Who should be in charge of what you do with your body? Is there any situation where mind control should be allowed?

These kind questions fuel new layers of thinking and – properly handled – can draw a young person deeper into relationship with God and draw a community deeper into relationship with each other.

 

The balance between abstract openness and objective authority

Properly handling these types of issues requires a balance between firm leadership and an openness to grace.

Sometimes people in these conversations will give voice to thought that might well stray over the line of heresy. Great – this is something we can work with! In my opinion confusion and shaky foundations are much better out than in where the light of day, the clarity of the Bible, and the love of genuinely tolerant brothers and sisters can sharpen, inform and grow the thinker.

This sharpening, however, needs be done with maturity and great care. Rather than simply carpet bombing your project themes with hot topics like abortion and sexuality, instead create a regular time where many questions are thought about from multiple perspectives.

This isn’t to say you should leave every topic as messy heap of existential and epistemological indecision (it is responsible to draw things together, challenge, rebuke, correct, and speak clearly from the Bible), but you should make a safe space for the process to happen as a process. This means critical thinking, deep discussion, open questions, and sometimes raw confusion.

 

A hardcore example

There is a thin line between ethical discussion and critical thinking. Thinking about anything ethically means asking questions of it. Mathematician Jacob Bronowski famously said, “That is the essence of science: ask an impertinent question, and you are on the way to a pertinent answer.” (This may have been more famous for its quote in the original X Files!).

There are lots of easy places to go for an example, but let’s take a more interesting one. Consider this, then, for a line of questioning:

  • Is there a distinction between the person and character of God (who he is), and the revelation and actions of God (what he says and does)?
  • What level of distinction is there?
  • Is it possible to worship what God does or what God says, and not actually be worshipping God?
  • If that is true, is it possible to make idol of what God does and says, and in effect be committing heresy by worshipping it.
  • Is it dangerous or sinful to worship the Bible? Is it at all? Is there a worse alternative?
  • How would you know if you were worshipping Bible instead of God? Could it be possible to worship the Bible as healthy worship of God?
  • Is it possible the two people to go through these same questions and arrive at equally valid answers; distinct yet equally correct because of their level of faith and maturity?
  • Should all people think the same about these issues regardless of where they are at in their faith?

This is an epistemological and yet still ethical line of systematic-theological scrutiny. We’re talking about the character of God, yet we’re also talking about revelation, and we’re talking about both corporate and individual worship. Added to this, we’re asking some interesting questions of our Christian habits and what is actually happening under the surface, and what is driven by our hidden assumptions. Cool eh?

None of the above questions have a simple ‘yes / no’ answer – they are all answered in degrees along a spectrum. Further, each question needs to be re-evaluated in light of the next.

This brings us into a fantastic line of ethical discussion. It relies on community conversation, it needs us to be nuanced and measured, it needs us to engage with both hearts and minds, it needs us to turn to prayer, and it needs us to read our Bibles carefully with a greater dependence on the Holy Spirit. Doesn’t that just sound like maturity?

 

Ok, so what about in a youth club? … Plain English please, Tim.

Of course, I wouldn’t suggest simply copying and pasting that above example set of questions into your youth group, but it should give you an idea of what you’re looking for.

Questions shouldn’t always be closed down, simple, black-and-white, or enslaved to rules of thumb. Life isn’t this simple after-all!

For easier start, simply answer questions with questions for a little while. Don’t dissolve into diverting every question another question but do take a couple of extra minutes to open discussion up bit more, before you close it down and move on.

Remember your golden follow-up and open-up questions:

  • Who?
  • What?
  • When?
  • Where?
  • Why?
  • How?

Let’s let the Bible, and our Christianity speak with the same complexity that real life affords. Let’s dig, get deep, and get applicable. Let’s not muddy the waters where they are clear and let’s not transform our projects into intellectual exercises, but let’s take more care to give exploration the room it deserves.

 

Some caveats

  • It’s important for you to be comfortable and confident in your knowledge of God and His Word.
  • It’s important to make people feel safe by keeping conversations from dissolving into personally targeted debates.
  • It’s important to ask responsible.. not just ‘cool’ ones.
  • It’s important to be aware of triggers in the room (additional needs, mental health etc.).
  • It’s important to make sure your questioning is serving your young people, and not just your intellectual curiosities or (heaven forbid) your god-complex.
  • Remember that God is big enough to handle paradox, disagreement, differences, and even subjectivity. His glory is not dependent on your ability to rationalise it out.
  • That said, objective discussion should always stand firm on the Bible and be led by a keen awareness of the Holy Spirit. Pray for discernment – trust in grace!

 

Some sample questions to get you started

  • Can a person really be anything they want? What are some things they can’t be (logically), and what are some things they should not be (morally)? Who says? Why?
  • Whose happiness is the most important in the world to pursue? What should be allowed to get in the way of someone being happy? Is happiness always the most important thing to be? What else is there? When happiness isn’t available, are you less than human?
  • Can you love someone even if they don’t feel loved by you? Is it important that the person you love actually feels loved?
  • What do you do if someone’s ‘rights’ trample over someone else’s ‘rights’? What ‘rights’ do people really have or should they have?

 

… I might add some more later 😛

Have fun!

 

Should Dr. Jordan Peterson be a role model for youth workers?

Jordan Peterson. Is he the opium for the masses of yesteryear – fighting a last hurrah for traditional masculinity before it plunges into the abyss? Or is he the the national self-help coach, strapping a pseudo-understanding of a plethora of human interest topics onto his otherwise robust portfolio of clinical psychology (with grey tape and bungee chords), hoping that no-one noticed? Is he a misunderstood messiah, or troubled and troubling? Who is he, and do we really want to learn from him?

Upfront I want to say that I like Jordan Peterson – mostly. I’m not a lobster t-shirt wearing ‘bucko’, as his more effusive fans are affectionally called. I’ve read ‘The 12 Rules for Life’ and, despite being written in uninspiring prose, it does have a lot of well-tested, sensible ideas to take away. I’ve also listened to many of his interviews and lectures, and have learned much in the process. Some of it I liked straight away, other parts challenged me directly and won me over eventually. I respect that, however unpopular his ideas might be, he engages in calm and collected reasoning, allowing anything on the table as long as it is presented respectfully.

From a Christian perspective, however, there are some problems to navigate through. These are problems which need to be taken on board very carefully before we surrender our own reasoning abilities to his, getting caught up in the flow that it changes how we approach ministry.

Tread Carefully

I’ve just finished an MA in the hopes of soon starting a PhD, and – although I did well – one of the most consistent pieces of feedback that I received from professors is that my analysis is good but my conclusions are often overstated. I wonder if the same can be said for Dr. Peterson?

When you listen to Dr. Peterson question, dig, differentiate, clarify, and present clinic studies as evidence – he is on fire! His critical reasoning abilities, especially in the line of critical and hostile debate is incredible. His analysis is often spot on, sourced well and undergirded with a startling, well-honed talent for critical thinking.

His conclusions, however, often jump wildly to something that can seem completely left field. His credibility was built during the analysis, which – guard now dropped – makes us accept his conclusions all too readily.

The problem, of course, is that he is looking for the ‘true’ meta-narrative of the universe without actually knowing God. He is attempting to find this ultimate truth in the orbits of myth, legend, ancient story, classical philosophy, and even the Bible. These, however, all surround an aura of an idea that he hasn’t properly grasped or digested, thus are all held with equal weight.

Dr. Peterson is looking for an ultimate ethic; an absolute foundational set of principles to guide humanity, but without a living relationship with the living God. This means he is working from the outside in – getting close, but misunderstanding the weight of his evidence, thus missing the truth.

Without a fundamentally Christian ethic he can only get close, but not actually get on point.

What does this look like?

His idea of the divine results in an Eastern balance of equal and opposite forces – almost karmic. The yin-yang is his meta-type metaphor that he uses to explain the chaos and order that battle in the world. This stems from a serious lack of understanding of the nature of sin (the actual bringing of chaos), and the character of God (ultimate order).

His conclusion is balance (over equality), and wit this comes an acceptance of suffering as a part of life, helped only by the masses individually trying to correct unjust situations.

There is a lot of admire in this, but ultimately it is a pure form of humanism, and not compatible with Christianity.

Aspects missing from Dr. Peterson’s worldview – but clear in Jesus’ – are things like:

  • Ultimate sacrificial love
  • Servant-hearted leadership
  • A honour in humility
  • Seeking to be last
  • Dependence upon God
  • Seeking the goodness of others above personal success
  • An end to suffering – ultimately
  • Chaos solved by surrender to, not creation of, order

This is not to say that Dr. Peterson isn’t immensely compassionate, and fiercely ethical. I believe he is. Christian ethics, however, cannot be tamed by conventional wisdom, or dammed by conventional fears. The God-man, Jesus, demonstrates the perfect picture of leadership that run counter to the ideas of self-actualised success as presented (at least in my understanding) of Dr. Peterson’s work.

Some of this comes down to him being a traditional scientist, weighing all evidence with equal weight as is responsible to the method. Thus the Bible is put alongside other sources feather than above it. Some of this, however, also comes down to a poor understanding of the Bible. When he does quote from Scripture, he seems to cite odd scholarship and rather mess up fundamental exegetical methods.

We do, therefore, need to tread carefully when mirroring Dr. Peterson’s worldview. This doesn’t mean, however, that there’s not a lot we can’t learn from him.

What can we learn from Dr. Peterson

Going back to his analysis, I think that the most important takeaways from Dr. Peterson is both his critical thinking ability and calm response to conflict.

Critical Thinking

I believe that critical thinking is one of the most undervalued aspects of early education. Throughout high-school (in the UK at least), the emphasis is placed on memorisation of facts, rather than on the discovery of them.

This, in turn, has deeply effected our evangelism. I guess that almost half the questions that I’m asked by young people would never have been asked in the first place if they were taught how to think. Misplaced stereotypes and new-atheist propaganda has been swallowed hook, line, and sinker, as if it was candy rather than a barb.

When we are asked a question, our natural response is to answer it – either as stated or as categorised as something we’ve heard before. Neither of these might be what the asker was interested in.

Instead, when asked a question, Dr. Peterson, clarifies the question. He asks a question back (or twelve), not to avoid but to focus. In doing this he better understands the question, shows more respect for the person asking the question, and he starts to find holes in the assumptions given.

Take this question for instance:

‘If God exists why is there suffering and evil?’

There’s a question we’ve all heard many times, and we probably already have a stock answer ready to roll. However, using critical thinking, and being a little Socratic about it we can have a much more effective answer. How about responding to that with one of these:

Why do you think suffering and evil means God can’t exist?

What kind of God are you talking about?

What kind of suffering and evil are you talking about?

How would you do it?

Can you think of any way suffering happens for a good reason?

Are you struggling with something right now? Want to talk about that?

A little bit of critical thinking reveals that this question doesn’t challenge God’s existence at all, instead it brings up whether or not someone likes the idea of God, which is a much weaker – but more honest – position.

This effects our Bible studies and talks too. If we only ask closed ended questions, or speaking at young people then we won’t be training them to discover truth for themselves. What about printing off Bible verses, and letting young people try their hand at some exegesis tools? What about getting them to write a Bible study then deliver it?

Critical thinking is gold, because we love and serve a reasonable God. He wants us to think, and He wants us to discover Him.

Calm under Conflict

If you watch Dr. Peterson when he comes under fire in an interview or debate, you’ll notice a few things.

First, his posture doesn’t change. He stays leaned back, with his hands folded.

Second, he doesn’t loose eye-contact, he stays connected at a personal level.

Third, his tone, although firm and direct doesn’t gain an overly aggressive edge. He remains respectful.

Fourth, he listens critically, doesn’t interrupt, takes a minute to understand and clarify, and he processes his answer carefully.

If you watch me – especially at my worst – you’ll see me do all the opposite of these things. I lean in, I fidget, I interrupt, I look anywhere but at the person’s face, I speak erratically and defensively, I say off-the-cuff things or placating things, and I speak to quickly without digesting. Bad!

This is one of the main reasons he wins his debates, but is also one of the main reasons he is respected. He shows respect when under conflict.

He is slightly less reasonable when the person attacking him is rude and unreasonable – which is fair enough. However, as we work with teenagers and in churches, we may need to dial up our tolerance for this kind of behaviour.

So what?

Dr. Jordon Peterson, I believe, is a helpful figure in public discourse. He’s thoughtful, compassionate, helpful, and articulate. He thinks before he speaks and he listens carefully. He doesn’t dismiss the supernatural out-of-hand, and he believes in the power of story.

He does not, however, represent a Christian worldview, or present a complete picture of Christian leadership values as were displayed in Jesus. Thus we need to tread carefully around his conclusions.

Dr. Peterson does, finally, give us a wonderful role-model for critical thinking, and remaining calm under conflict. Both of these traits will, I believe, serve us very well in our ministries with young people.

Approaching The Dating Topic With Some Help From Plato

Approaching the topic of dating in the Youth Group can be a snake pit of misconstrued ideals, worldly concepts and our own sporadic histories. We need to fundamentally challenge the build up on nonsense that’s sewn into the fabric of Western Society before we can get anywhere.

Our modern, 21st-century view of dating can be summed up in these five immortal words: “snag the best you can!”

This clearly has more to do with you than the one you want to go out with. You, sir or madam, are a certain build, a certain character, a certain group of personalities, a certain hairline, a certain waistline and a certain punchline. Put all those characteristics into the magical food processor of life, and out pops a concoction with a very specific formula that only certain suitors will drink.

Effectively, this ranks potential partners into a devastating hierarchical pyramid. The PHD supermodel at the top, and the receding, skinny ginger (myself) at the bottom buried under a foot of peat. A young person learns very quickly how high on that pyramid to aim – and then they stick there. Anyone above that level becomes ‘out of their league’ therefore ‘out of bounds’ and ‘not worth the effort.’

This means they start looking for the wrong things in a partner from the get-go and they lead this search with a stupid and an immensely low view of human value.

Plato’s Guide To Dating

This is the exact opposite of the eminent, classical philosopher Plato. One of Plato’s key theories was, ‘you should always allow your lover to change you.’

The way this works out in practice is that rather than looking for someone ‘just like you’ or ‘at your level’ or ‘in your league,’ you instead look for someone who possesses characteristics that you want but do not have. You aim for the stars!

Your lover should be more than you. By virtue of being with you, they will help you develop those characteristics that you want in yourself. They should help you become more than you already are and drive you to being a better person. You should always reach beyond your ‘league.’

We need to teach our young people to value personal growth in relationships, and to seek the best in people in a way that draws the best out of themselves. This means what the world values in a mate, is fundamentally flawed and bankrupt as you might not want those things for yourself!

It Worked For Me… Kinda

I met my wife at Uni. She was four years older than me, a poet, and an incredibly smart philosophy student with some history in modelling. She was totally beyond my reach. Yet by the grace of God, we ended up together, despite my best efforts to trash it.

After we’d known each other for a month she asked me directly, ‘Are you interested in me?’ And I – subscribing of course to the ‘not in my league’ formula – lied through my buckteeth. ‘No, no, no! Of course not. We’re just friends!’ Little did I know how much that would break her heart, and how close we came to utter disaster. Salvaged only by her  fierce tenacity and my simple ineptitude. Eight years later, I still wake up dumbfounded.

So aim above, don’t aim below. Don’t settle for ‘the trick is to aim for the 2nd prettiest.’ Don’t believe all the nonsense that the media feeds you about what you deserve and what makes people compatible. Reach for the stars and do not settle.

Keep A High Standard

Teach young people to have a really high standard for a partner, and to no allow themselves to settle for anything less.

Of course, this will also take some serious soul searching and consistent teaching about what human values are the most long-lasting and valuable – but you were doing that anyway weren’t you?

This will take more time and more self-improvement and more confidence on their part. This will take more waiting and more self-control and self restraint. Yet this is the only way to a happy partnership that really grows a couple and develops individuals.

Thank you Plato, you dog.

Epistemology of Youth Work

Epistemology, technically speaking, covers one third of all philosophical enquiry, and it is the branch most concerned with faith.

Epistemology, or the theory of knowledge, is always asking questions like, how do you know that, how do you know anything, what is knowledge, what signifies knowledge as fact as opposed to an opinion? How to you get to fact from opinion?

I use epistemological questions to level the playing field across all my work. Here are some examples:

In Broad Apologetic Theory

When entering a new classroom, I often get the students to describe their worldview. I do this by giving everyone a blank sheet of paper and asking a series of questions that determine what they know, what they think they know, what their priorities are, and what they truly care about deep down.

These questions range from ‘who is the most important person in the world’ to ‘why are you here’ and each question is followed by an epistemological question such as ‘how do you know that,’ ‘why do you think that,’ or ‘how can you be certain that’s true?’

The result of this exercise is a wide variety of worldviews (or dare I say religions) that hinge on a varying degree of faith. Even those who thought that they had an incredibly naturalistic, empirical or scientific approach to life need to admit a large reliance of faith.

In Specific Apologetic Questions

When responding to specific questions about God’s existence, such as, ‘how can you believe in a God when evil exists’, or ‘hasn’t Science disproved God’s existence’ I often start with some epistemological follow-ups. These can really narrow the scope and power of those initial questions.

Take God and evil: Why does evil dissuade you from God’s existence? What is it about suffering that makes God’s existence impossible? Can you not think of any possible world where God and evil could exist?

Or on the question of science: Which scientists and what research have you read to lead you to that conclusion? What do you mean by science? Can you think of anything in your experience that science could not prove or disprove? For their help with that last one, consider that the scientific method cannot provide evidence for the existence of mathematics, distinct minds, the reality of time, aesthetics or beauty, or even the scientific method itself!

Always follow a question with who, what, when, where, why, how, or which. Find out what they really know, what makes them think they know it and you’ll on your way to not only answering the question, but finding the real question behind it.

 

In Exegesis and Bible Studies

It’s certainly important to dig specifically into what does the text say, but it’s also important to analyse what presuppositions and assumptions we might be reading into the text as we examine it. Where did you get that opinion? Who told you that was true? What other possibilities could be going on? How do you know that is what God is like? If you we’re a 96 year old blind lady, what would you think then?

We will get further into the text if we examine (in the hope of somewhat suspending) our own epistemology, and what makes us think we are reading a passage correctly.

It’s also important when we start to apply a Bible passage to remember that the facts of the Bible – which I do believe are inerrant and infallible – are being filtered through my sinful perspective. Thus I will need God’s grace to help me understand, and faith to trust the Holy Spirit’s guidance as I read.

In Talks and Presentations

If you want to engage with a wide range of learning styles, then you will need to ask a wide range of questions. These questions need to be broader than just application, but should dig deeper into the specifics of how different personalities engage with knowledge.

Considering four or five different epistemological perspectives before you work out your applications will help you speak to a wider variety of people.

Some people’s epistemology will only allow them to assimilate a new truth if you can hang it on to experience they have already had. Others may accept what you say to readily because they believe you are a legitimate authority on the subject. Yet others will ignore you completely until they have seen it for themselves through working the problem step-by-step. Some people’s epistemology will only allow them to accept concrete ideas, and will outright reject abstract or open principles.

In Conflict Resolution and People Management

Knowing how to work with different epistemological perspectives is just as important as knowing how to work with different personality types. How people think and assimilate knowledge, and how seriously they take new information will affect how they receive communication.

This will of course change how you resolve difficulties and conflicts, and what language you use in public and private settings.

Epistemological lines of questioning can also help different people consider points of view otherwise removed from their own. Again, simple questions like ‘how do you know that’s what she was thinking when she told you that?’ can go a long way in lowering the temperature of a room.

Phenomenology, Faith and Young People

Guest post by Katie Gough. Freelance writer, published poet and independent philosopher. Katie has been involved in Youth Work – across three countries – for nearly a decade. Read more at www.kategough.com

Concrete and Abstract – What’s The Difference?

When you were five years old, your mother was your mother because of her smell, the feel of her hand in yours, the familiarity of her shape, her voice, and her constant attention. The bond between you was tangible in many ways. She was the immediate physical experience of love.

Perhaps now, you’ve grown up. In your mind, your mother is your mother because she gave birth to you and took care of you and suffered long nights caring for you when you were ill. She is your mother because you carry her DNA inside you, and maybe you show some of her physical traits. She is where you came from.

The difference between these two recognitions is profound. One is very concrete and experiential and the other is abstract, assessing and stacking up ideas and reasons. As we grow, our minds move from being bound by concrete things to being able to grasp and work with more flexible abstract concepts.

We use both of these methods throughout our lives in order to perceive our surroundings and their meaning to us. We grow, not out of the concrete, experiential side of our selves, but beyond it such that we can now grasp a wider, deeper world than we did in the first years of our lives. If our whole selves were made to commune with God, then the more elemental ways we perceived as children are not less valid, only incomplete.

Are We Holding Back the Development of Our Young People?

Christian teachings often indicate that we are to leave behind the more physical parts of ourselves in our quest to become holy. Our direct, concrete childhood experiences are devalued, replaced by abstract teaching (peppered with real-life stories to keep everyone’s attention), and finally ‘relegated to youth work’. We essentially throw a large portion of our spiritual growth away and never expect to look at it again.

In youth work however, we are expected to use concrete examples and methods in our attempts to reach young people with the gospel. While the experiences and learning of childhood may not be seen as respectable or advanced, we accept that they are a necessary tool in teaching young people. Thus, we simplify things down rather than opening them up, shying away from questions or content that might be difficult enough to ‘put young people off’. There are even (dare we admit it) a variety of things we avoid because we still don’t know how to answer them ourselves.

The underlying message of this approach has a knock-on effect in our youth work worldview and the attitudes we pass on to our young people. In the end, we deign to teach youth in a childish way because we think they are too distracted, rebellious and/or lazy to tackle the big stuff. But young people feel this — that we make concessions, that we don’t respect how we are teaching them, that we are holding back and trying not to scare them off. They know when older people are filling space, even while they enjoy that space for what it is.

This age group is right at the cusp of abstract thought, spending much of their time and mental energy becoming facile with its application in their every day life. As the rest of the world begins to open out into a wide vista of abstract opportunity and difficulty, why do we continue to portray faith safely, with foolproof, concrete simplicity? Can we blame them if faith suddenly begins to seem a bit childish and limited? A small, immobile, inflexible, uncomplicated faith. A pandering and… easy belief. Not relevant.

Approaching the Abstract.

When I was about 12, there was a question burning away my insides. Something in a sermon or my Bible had sparked it and I couldn’t shake it. How could one possibly know the difference between God’s voice and Satan’s? I felt that I could tell, but I had no reasons for it. What if I was wrong? How could I speak with God and know the answer was really His? My uncertainty threw the truth of my entire relationship with God into question. I needed to know.

One Sunday, I asked every Christian adult I knew even a little, which wasn’t many. They all looked at me with trapped, blank eyes. So I was left alone, mired in fear, my spiritual mast swinging with indecision.

The entrance of abstract thought into my world had defeated my ability to engage with my faith — and no one knew. I was left entirely alone by those who were supposed to be my spiritual elders and mentors.

Embracing the Challenge of the Abstract.

If our whole selves were made to commune with God, then the more elemental ways we perceived as children are not less valid, only incomplete. Young people need to grow, not out of the concrete, experiential side of themselves, but beyond it so that they can grasp a wider, deeper world than they did in the first years of their lives.

As young people learn to assimilate and apply the abstract everywhere else in life, are we communicating to them that the answers to a very messy world are as simple as they looked when they were children?

Our youth need to be able to meet an abstractly complex world with a more abstractly complex faith. We could be leading them by the hand, showing them how this new, abstract language enriches and broadens the old and familiar one, encouraging it to grow solidly — and in relationship with — their faith.

We need to show them how big the world of faith gets as they grow older.
Are You Ready to Roll Up Your Sleeves?

As youth workers, we have a responsibility to meet young people relevantly and with the kind of care that asks and sees where they are at. As they learn to embrace and use abstract thought, we need to give them opportunities and tools that allow them to try their hand at marrying their whole experience of life to this unfamiliar piece.

Let’s face it: these are fast-maturing young adults, and they care for a challenge more than we dare to think. We need to get down into the nitty gritty ourselves, find the crux of the issues we teach, and lead our young people’s feet onto the crossroads — there to experience for themselves that the abstract is as real and as spiritual as the concrete, and worth getting messy with.

As followers of Christ, we have to allow God to be bigger than what we can teach about him — even in front of young people. Their entire conceptual framework is re-working itself in front of us, and we need to acknowledge that our concepts about God grow with us beyond the concrete experience we all began with. Then we have to be ready to roll up our sleeves and partner with our youth to make that growth happen. We are, by example, a bridge to maturity in the faith

Katie is a Californian writer and artist living in North Wales. She writes poetry, articles and creative fiction of all kinds, for all sorts of uses.

She has a degree in Philosophy from Calvin College and adores puzzling out the universe. She is always up on her toes, reaching for the next question and internalising everything she sees, reads, hears, or experiences – and is ready to apply where appropriate!

Katie is married to a full time Youth Worker, and has been involved in a wide range of Youth Work projects for a number of years across Britain and America.

You can always find Katie with a big cup of tea and a ball of wool, knitting happily in a corner while pondering the depths of the universe and mentally mapping out her next short story.