So you’re a bold speaking warrior for truth eh?

Tribalism is synonymous with Western Church culture. Since the early schisms, through to the modern-day denominations and networks, believers ‘of every stripe’ rally to Paul, Peter, or Apollos (1 Cor. 1:12).

I remember being a teenager, sat with my vicar in his house trying to convince him to write a reference for me to go to an American seminary. He eventually did, but not until he treated me to a detailed list of all the peripheral things that he didn’t like about the seminary – and American churches in general. None of his problems were linked to Jesus, the nature of God, or to the Gospel, but he talked like I was walking blindly into a den of vipers.

At Youth for Christ in North Wales, we make a real effort to walk with any church who will walk with us. Our contentions are that they must love Jesus and must love young people. If there is something that has a significant impact upon the Gospel, then we’ll graciously go our separate ways. There is an enormous plethora of church styles in North Wales, and many small disagreements – but they’re still filled with good people seeking Jesus.

Finding identity in who we’re against

I recently heard a joke about an industrious Christian stranded on a desert island. He built a hospital, a school, a post-office, and two churches. When rescuers found him, they asked about the two churches and he answered very seriously, pointing, “that’s the church I go to, and that’s the church I don’t go to.”

It’s almost like we cannot be who we are without finding that in the relief of who we’re not.

If we spent one tenth of the time talking about Jesus than we do about our niggling differences, then I bet we could kiss evangelistic training goodbye!

At some point we made the theology yardstick as narrow as the narrow gates of salvation (Matt. 7:13-14) – as if we somehow could work out someone else’s salvation with fear and trembling (Phil. 2:12). Somewhere we decided that judgment, protection, righteous anger, and conviction should all be whacked together, indiscriminately, to mean an aggressive micro-management of doctrine. I simply cannot get over the mean-spirited Christian meme culture surrounding this.

I totally believe in Gospel surety, in clear teaching, and in exposing false teachers as dangerous to the children of God, but the Bible spells out exact how to do that, and more importantly the heart in which that should be done. (Check out this post for more on that).

Theological Surety and Bold Correction

‘Calling people out’ has never been easier with the internet being what it is. It has moved a long way from what was supposed to be a careful and loving process of church discipline. It was designed to be surrounded by gracious conversation in a sequential course of community sanctification.

I’m afraid that you’re not a plain-speaking, bold-truth-talking, patriarchal hero if you just cavalierly mash together theological clarity and bold correction – however testosterone saturated it makes you feel (#godcomplex). Iron cannot sharpen iron if one of you is carrying a machine gun!

We must learn to strive, brick-by-brick, mile-by-mile, word-by-word, and yes, doctrine-by-doctrine to learn more about who God is and how we can worship Him holistically and as a community. Worship of God should always be our motivating force.

What does your doctrine do?

That’s what proper doctrine is right? It’s not just a legislative road map, it’s a living and active set of tools to help us fall more in love with the living God. Sorry, did you think there was going to be an exam before you got to the pearly gates? Did you remember to bring your well-sharpened No2 pencil?

Does your doctrine call you to love and worship God more – or does it place you higher on your own throne?

Do your corrections of others come from a place of longing that God would get more heartfelt worship through people – or that you would be recognised as an authority?

Do you think that what God really needs is a ‘night watchman’, walking around with a flashlight and body-armour, making sure no pesky doctrinal discrepancies sneak through the cracks and into the Kingdom?

The church will keep sinking until we put down our swords and pull together.

 

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Are we supposed to ‘feel’ loved to ‘be’ loved?

In 1970, a film adaptation of Erich Segal’s novel ‘Love Story’ made famous the line ‘love means never having to say you’re sorry’, but it took another 34 years and an 8-year-old called Lisa Simpson to point out ‘No it doesn’t! This movie is drivel!’ Little legend Lisa.

Can you think of anything more manipulative than the classic cliché, ‘if you really loved me then you would…’? It’s the catchphrase of the abuser, the passive-aggressive turn of the knife, and the ultimate hammer blow of peer-pressure.

That little line alone has probably caused more regret and relational ruin than the entire collected works of J.D. Salinger and August Strindberg combined!

But have we made the philosophy behind this idea acceptable? Do we also judge (and sometimes flat out reject) the very existence of someone’s genuine love by our own emotive litmus tests.

If a tree falls in the woods

There is a growing trend that says perception is reality. Love, therefore, gets held to ransom by the loved. It’s measured in the eye of the beholder.

Imagine for a second that we decided that something was only food if we liked its taste. I really don’t like taste of celery, but because I don’t like it doesn’t make it not food. I really do like the taste of PlayDoh, but I don’t think that makes the neon pink putty into food, just because I have weird taste buds.

The classic is ‘if a tree falls in the woods, but no one was around to hear it, did it actually make a sound?’ It’s an interesting question, and one that places individualistic humanity over and above the reality of any and all outside experiences. It’s pretty selfish, and rather me-centric, but isn’t that just like us?

When it comes to love, we have begun to say things like ‘if I didn’t feel it right, then you didn’t do it right!’ Or more commonly, ‘unless you approve of me then you can’t really love me.’ When did approval get into this game?

There is a big difference between acceptance and approval. Whereas God might accept me just as I am, he doesn’t necessarily approve of all I am. It’s completely legitimate to have acceptance without approval. I think God probably wants me to eat celery and not PlayDoh! This doesn’t mean that God doesn’t love me though.

My wife accepts me leaving my underwear on the bathroom floor, it doesn’t mean she approves of it. Helping a friend with a drug addiction needs to come with acceptance of the person, but not approval of the habit, otherwise it’s just enabling.

If I said that you can’t love me because you don’t accept me – when what I really mean is approve of me – I think I would be just a tad manipulative. I would be holding your love ransom to my subjective and emotive standard. This just isn’t fair.

What about all the feels?

The resulting subversively emerging assumption (try saying that five times faster) is that making people feel loved is exactly what we were trying to conjure up all along. Of course, it’s entirely possibly to make someone feel loved, but not actually love them at all – but we’re getting ahead of ourselves.

Let’s start with the goodness in this before we entirely chew the idea up and spit it out.

  • If you’re making no effort to understand the people that you are apparently loving, then are you really making an effort to love them?
  • If you’re holding people enslaved to your ideas of what they should and shouldn’t be before you love them, is it really love?
  • If you’re totally indifferent to how someone feels in response to your ‘loving’ language and or actions, then are you really sure that ‘loving’ is what you are doing?

Just saying ‘I’m loving you’ without any accountability to the person we’re loving isn’t enough. They might feel it or not feel it, but frankly we might be getting it wrong anyway.

It’s always worth taking an emotional inventory before we push too hard on the ‘but I’m misunderstood’ button. Feeling loved, after all, is at least part of what we’re hoping for when we love someone. At least it should be.

This issue goes both ways, but is the feeling the whole story? No. It’s not even on the first page.

Are we loving wrong when they don’t ‘feel it’?

If people don’t feel loved by our love, would it necessarily mean that we’re loving those people ‘wrong’, or that our love is in some way defective, damaged, or deficient? Would it be unfledged or immature?

Let’s think about this for a moment. Have you ever done a loving thing that was then unfortunately taken in the wrong way? Have you ever been genuinely loving but the one you loved took it as something other than love? If you’re a parent, I imagine you can think of all kinds of examples!

Is it loving, for instance, to make your kids eat their greens, take baths, go to school, do their homework, or turn off their xbox after fifteen straight hours of looking like a zombie? Is it loving to watch out for who they are friends with, what they’re watching on TV, or who talking to on the internet? Is it loving to sometimes tell them ‘no’ or to discipline them when they cross a line?

Are there also times when a person we’re loving just won’t remember our loving actions? Is it, for instance, loving to pick up a drunk person from the floor and get them into a taxi home if they don’t remember that you did it? What about giving money to a charity that works with street children in Guatemala. The kids might ‘feel’ loved by the direct staff workers and volunteers, but they might not feel loved by the anonymous donor.

Thinking now of this in youth ministry, is it loving to tell young people about what the Bible says, even when it flies in the teeth about what they want? Is it loving to caution them about promiscuity, drug use, lying, or disrespecting their parents? Is it loving to talk to them about sin, God’s wrath or Hell?

Of course, it matters how you do all these things, but do we really expect people will always feel loved when we love them – is that realistic of fair?

Put another way, what would happen to our relationships with these people if we kept changing what we did in order to make sure they always felt loved. Would it always be in their best interests?

What is love, really?

Many in our culture believe that love is primarily and essentially a feeling. That is its crux, basis and bottom line. Five decades of Hollywood romance has taught us this.

Love and feelings do often overlap, of course. Love can give us all of the feels! It’s a great descriptive word to use for the warm fuzzies and we often identify the feeling of ‘love’ when good things have happened. We feel love at a funeral and we feel love at a wedding – it’s an important descriptor for complicated emotions.

So, love can be descriptive, but does that make it a feeling in and of itself?

Although love can be a descriptor for a complicated set of powerful emotions, the word itself in English is historically a verb. Love is an action, it’s something that we do. Even in New Testament Greek, the four words ἀγάπη, ἔρως, φιλία, and στοργή can be both nouns and verbs, and often mean both together.

When we love someone then, we don’t simply ‘feel’ towards them with some kind spasmodic force. Feelings may accompany what we do, but they are not the whole. When we love somebody we serve them, we help them, we lift them up, we support them, we stand with them, we are present to them, and we protect them. Occasionally we might even withdraw from them.

Sometimes we lovingly do loving things for people that are best for them even if they won’t like them or recognise them as ‘love’. My wife is still trying to ‘lovingly’ make me see a dentist.

Where do ‘love languages’ feature in this?

This is a really interesting question. Gary Chapman’s ‘love languages’ books became a growing phenomenon in the Church throughout the last two decades, disseminating across Christian literature.

There’s an awful lot of important things to learn about how people give and receive love in these ideas. Understanding love languages as a part of personality types can help us communicate better with people and be more sympathetic. They are not the whole story though and need to be balanced with a much fuller philosophy of who people are and what love is.

I would strongly suggest reading about love languages but keep that in check with reading something like Don Carson’s fabulous little book, ‘The Difficult Doctrine of the Love of God.’

What about God?

God tells us that he disciplines those he loves. He reminds us of this exactly because often we don’t feel loved when He does (Pr. 3:12; Heb. 12:4-12). Is God’s loving discipline somehow defective? Does God need to readdress his understanding of our love languages? Of course not!

God is love after all (1 Jn. 4:7-12), and we should never accuse Him of not being so just because we didn’t ‘feel’ it at any given time.

We hope that the people we love will always feel loved – of course we do! There doesn’t have to be a dichotomy between the two. However, one doesn’t guarantee the other. We can’t hold our own loving actions captive to someone else’s feelings.

If in doubt, we should do the loving thing, however it is taken.

 

5 Myths about Expository Teaching in Youth Groups

I think modern youth ministry has more history in topical teaching than expositional, and I think youth ministry training and resources tend to focus more on it too. That doesn’t make topical teaching better though, just more usual – and so we feel more confident in teaching topics and more competent in putting topical teaching together.

Topical teaching is not bad, and it does have a place in our projects. I also believe, however, that expositional teaching – when done well with young people – covers all the topics that we’d want to cover anyway. I believe it does this with more healthy and specific applications, while also imparting skills in how to handle the Bible.

Both topical and expositional teaching have their place in a youth group, but I’ll always lean towards expositional. It might be slightly outside of the historic wheelhouse of modern youth ministry, but I think it’s well worth the time and effort.

Here are five myths about expository teaching that could do with being exposed (see what I did there?):

1. It will go over their heads

The Bible is not too hard for teenagers to understand. Like anything, it just needs teaching clearly. Usually, Bible teaching that comes across as too difficult has much more to say about the teacher than those taught. It’s a living and active book. God speaks directly through it – our job is to teach it well.

Taught with confidence and competence, the Bible is the most understandable message to humanity there is.

2. It won’t be relevant

The Bible speaks to every situation of life, and – again, taught well – will always shine a light on modern situations. You might not find a guide to Instagram in the book of Mark, but everything that drives the needs and passions surrounding social media is there in spades. The Bible goes beyond the superficial and gets to ‘the thing behind the thing’ very quickly.

Taught with confidence and competence, the Bible is the most relevant message to humanity there is.

3. It takes too long

The Bible has been broken up into sections for a reason. Pick passages and books that fit the timings and styles of your projects. The golden rule is: It’s better to spend time on a little, than glance over a lot. One of my groups once spent two years looking at Philippians chapter 1. We didn’t rush it, didn’t over plan it, and – with the addition of Q&A – It spoke to almost everything that they cared about.

Taught with confidence and competence, the Bible is the most practically adaptable message to humanity there is.

4. It won’t be tailored to my group

It’s an odd idea that we can understand any group so deeply that we can come up with five or six specific topics that cover all their needs and challenges. Topical teaching inevitably pigeon holes and simplifies issues to reach a broad group. The Bible, however, speaks directly to our daily lives because the Holy Spirit works through it as we teach. It’s living and active and it comes with the immediate understanding of the voice of God. As such, it will always speak more clearly to a group than reduced topical teaching.

Taught with confidence and competence, the Bible is the most applicable message to humanity there is.

5. It will be boring

The Bible is not boring. Not one bit and not for one second! We are charged to interact with it deeply and discover the fullness of life within it’s pages. If the teacher is phoning it in, then it will be boring. When Jesus taught the whole available Bible in Luke 24:27, the disciples said that their hearts burned within them (v.32). There’s absolutely nothing wrong with the material, only our confidence in it and competence with it.

Taught with confidence and competence, the Bible is the most alive and inspiring message to humanity there is.

Confidence and Competence

I keep mentioning confidence in and competence with the Bible. This is a hard message and a stark challenge because many youth workers have told me that this is exactly where they struggle most. This is why I wrote Rebooted – to give youth workers more confidence in and competence with the Bible. You could read 15 pages of Rebooted strategically and get a narrative overview of the whole Bible. It’s there to help in exactly this area.

For now, just keep reading the Bible! The more you read the more you hear, the more you hear the more you know, and the more you know the more you live, and the more you live the better you teach!

 

How to pick a youth ministry training course

Since writing my post on why you should train for ministry, I have had a couple of emails asking my opinions on various courses. With that in mind, I thought I’d write this.

There are three basic things to look out for when you visit potential training courses: Curriculum content, community support, and outside opportunities.

Curriculum content

Whatever the particular focus, each youth ministry curriculum should include these four areas. They might be labelled differently, or be mixed into various modules, but I think the core should still be there:

Theological foundation

How to handle the Bible, think theologically, and grapple with historic doctrine. There should be exegetical training, along with time spent on the fundamentals of systematic theology. This should not be reduced to only include things obviously pertinent to youth ministry. You might also want to make sure they sign up to mainstream creeds, or are members of something like the Evangelical Alliance.

Youth work theory

How does youth work interact with the disciplines of theology, psychology, history, education, sociology, and politics? Evaluation of various models, and time spent on things like contextualised mission, vision and strategy, and church integration. This should ideally include a little bit of counselling theory too.

Youth work practice

How to operate a youth ministry in safe and legal way including developing a team, managing volunteers, safeguarding, data protection, and health and safety law. How to create projects, evaluate, and change them, and how to work in tandem with the wider vision of the church. This should also include self-care, crisis response and reflective practice.

Ethics and apologetics

How to facilitate healthy conversations and manage discussions around complex areas. How to respond appropriately to the most frequently asked questions by teenagers. How to talk with nuance and subtlety, learning to think critically in an emotionally complex tapestry of personalities.

Community support

Some courses will offer you more of a community environment than others. There are three things I’d be looking for.

Spiritual engagement

Is it common practice to pray during lectures? Are there regular chapel services, prayer meetings, and compulsory student support style groups? Do students have personal tutors, and is there an emphasis on spiritual growth in those times? Are families encouraged to get involved? Are you going to grow your heart in tandem with your head? Linked with this is how accessible and open are your professors?

Student body

It’s important to look at things like age and gender spread, but also consider if there is a particular theological leaning, church background, or class type. Will your connections be superficial, or strong and lasting? On the flip side could you be too comfortable and not challenged? Is there a student union with reps, social events, and recognition by a national body? An NUS card is a wonderful thing!

Partnerships

Are they in an ivory tower, shouting at the world and never interacting with it? Who do they run events with and what projects do they share? Who else uses their buildings? Which visiting speakers do they regularly invite? Is the course actually accredited and recognised?

Outside opportunities

The best degrees are supported by relevant experience that you can get locally. The following are all ways of making sure you won’t be living in a bubble for three years.

Volunteering

Are the churches and organisations nearby that you can volunteer for beyond any official placement scheme? Can you develop your experience in a personally crafted way?

Social

Are there places like sports clubs, bars, cinemas, and gyms that you could meet non-Christians? Can you continue with your hobbies? Will you be able to let your hair down outside the confines of the course?

Employment

Is it possible for you to hold a part-time job in the area? Does the course allow for working alongside studying?

Conclusion

There’s always a X factor to these things, and you have to follow where God leading you, but I hope these three areas are a good place to start.

You can go further and delve into things like lecture delivery style, chances for further study, how epic their library is, what bursaries are available, what the accommodation and food is like, is there adequate study and social areas, the climate, and how employers view the place etc. – but I hope these three essential areas will start you on the right path.

Check out the websites, visit the colleges, and ask lots of questions. Most of all be open to the leading of the Holy Spirit and have lots of fun!

 

Why train for ministry?

Because you should.

I’ve written several posts now about the pros and cons of training. I’ve tried to gently and persuasively spell out why it’s a good idea. If I was to be a little bit more honest and franker however, that I’d say you actually need a really, really good reason not to train.

Ministry is not about you. It’s about Jesus and it’s about those that you serve. If you’ve got the opportunity, therefore, then you should give God that intentional time to shape you to be ready for those people. You owe it to your future congregation to spend less time playing trial-and-error, and more time building intentionally on a solid foundation.

Why would you not train if you have the opportunity?

If you want to take ministry seriously as a calling and not just a vocation, then you’ve got to think of your life in terms of decades and not years. This means portioning out serious time for ministry training.

You can always build experience later, but you can’t build a foundation later, especially not when you’re already several floors up.

Why train?

Because you’ll learn how to handle the Bible.

You’ll learn how to preach better.

You’ll gain an understanding of different learning styles.

You’ll start to ask better questions.

You’ll play test ideas.

You’ll examine things that have already been done.

You develop practices critically without responsibility – which means you won’t hurt anybody if you get something wrong.

You’ll meet a band of brothers and sisters to grow with.

You’ll learn to engage more critically, developing nuance and subtlety.

You’ll be evaluated by people who know more than you do.

You’ll learn in community not just isolation (which is how the Bible was designed to be read).

You’ll do more reflective practice.

You’ll receive formal recognition that you have reached an understood standard – making you more employable.

If you feel a call to ministry then don’t see training as only one potential option. See it as the obvious main path, and only choose a different one if God lays it clearly in front of you.

Training is so important. I believe that one of the main reasons so many youth ministers quit after just one contract period, is simply because they weren’t trained to hit the ground running in the first place.

Training can be better, and it certainly could be cheaper, and you might even end up picking the wrong place for you and then need to change. But this doesn’t make training a bad option. Please, if you’ve written it off, think – and then think again.

 

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How to write better blog posts

This will be a somewhat relative post, as all blogs are different. They have different readers and serve different purposes. For blogs like this one though, where you are trying to offer a genuine digital service, along with sound advice, thought provoking stories, and solidarity for like-minded people, making the effort to raise the bar is – I think – a noble pursuit.

I know the title of this post is going to be treated with a healthy amount of scepticism, but considering the amount of nonsense I’ve written, and the many, many mistakes that I’ve made, I feel like I can add a few dots of wisdom to the topic.

I started blogging almost 15 years ago, and at the time it was just a way of interacting with other students at my theology college. My posts tended to be long-winded, poorly written, over detailed, badly structured, filled with reactionary content, and peppered with incendiary commenting.

Since then I’ve made a lot of effort to carefully cultivate a readership, be more specific in my focuses, and generous with my platform. For those of you who have followed me for a long time, I hope you agree that this is a far better blog that It once was.

This post has been prompted by three people who kindly emailed and specifically asked me this question over the last few weeks. I said I would write something on it, so here it is.

There are many ‘how to write better’ posts already out there, so this just contains a few ideas that I personally have had to work hard on. I hope one or two might be useful!

Take it seriously

Readers are people first. My job is to engage with them as human beings and not click numbers.

I have quite a detailed a profile in my mind of a fictional, yet believable person who I’m writing to before I begin to plan each post. This isn’t always the same person but does tend to be one of three or four that I regularly think of. At very least I remember that my reader is not me.

This means that I take great care in how I research a post, how I structure it, the language I choose, its length, and its anecdotes. I try to be person specific.

Also, because I see blogging as a genuine part of my ministry, I invest in it. I pay for a self-hosted WordPress account, domain name, and template, and I take time off in the year to properly design and renovate the site.

Know your USP

‘USP’ or unique selling point, is basically a tool to help you remember what it is that makes you distinct. Your unique voice online should flow out of your unique personality. What place does your voice have in the wider conversation? No blog can be the complete word on any subject, but it can still have a clearly recognisable voice.

YouthWorkHacks tries to be a bridge between theoretical and practical youth work. Its place is to push the boundaries of theory into real application, and to challenge practices to engage more critically with their philosophical roots.

This is why the ‘voice’ of YouthWorkHacks requires pure practitioners to reach deeper for foundations, and pure theorists to reach a wider for applications. Hence the moto: ‘reaching further in youth work.’

As I’m both a practitioner and an academic, this suits me well. Some blogs are more resource driven, and some are more abstract. What’s your USP voice in the conversation – what do you bring that’s distinct?

Critically engage

Postgraduate marking criteria always mentions critical engagement. This is the ability to look at one issue from several angles, including perspectives that you might not agree with. The best posts follow this same principle; softening highly rhetorically or reactionary language in favour of genuine discussion.

When critiquing, the critically engaged post tries to see the context in which something is framed, it looks for the extraneous threads that pull on the central idea, and it knows the best arguments against its own position.

Rather than, ‘Person A said something stupid,’ how about ‘Person A has presented this idea, which is consistent with their other works in “these” ways, but it’s probably based in “X” particular context. Person B has a slightly different approach, which contrasts with Person A in the “following ways”. I think Person B makes the more lucid argument for “these following reasons”, and I would apply that in “these ways”.’ This is longer, but it gives far more content and it outgrows our own opinions.

Provide more than just problems

Plenty of blog posts don’t go beyond an observation of something they don’t like. If you think something is missing, or ethically wrong, or dangerous, then say so, but say why, and say what you think needs to happen in response.

A blog that only focuses on problems tends to be written as an exercise in catharsis. The focus becomes the writer and not what is said. When several blogs do this, they become an echo chamber, rehashing the same problems without solutions, and reframing the same issues without acknowledging hope. A post that says, ‘I saw this and it sucks’ without any more evaluation will always leave me wanting, and will probably mean that I won’t return to that blog again.

I want my blog to be a place of positivity and kindness, but without losing the reality of genuine struggles. It’s entirely possible to do both, but you have to plan, research, reflect, and write with more care and attention that just ‘sticking up a post.’

Blogs can’t square every circle, and they shouldn’t try to fix things that should be grieved over, but they can still provide a unique view, or an abstract set of ‘maybe if’ ideas.

Write better

This is such an obvious thing to say but good content requires a working vehicle to deliver it. When I read a post that clearly hasn’t been proofread, then I feel disrespected as a reader.

You don’t have to be Shakespeare to make sure that you have full stops in the right place, or capital letters for names.

I’m not a naturally gifted writer, instead I have to work very hard at it. This is why I tend to proof read my posts the day after I write them – and obviously before I post them. I also use tools like Grammarly and PaperRater – and I write my posts first into Word, rather than the blog wizard. Personally, I’m terrible at using inconsistent tenses, run-on sentences, and using words like ‘simply’ over repetitively. I use passive voice too much, and I write too much like I talk.

If you are a writer, then you must also be an editor. This is about serving the reader. My wife explains it this way; ‘Tim, you need to take me by the hand and walk me through each point, don’t assume that I’ll just get it.’

Pray more

Pray before you post. Pray for the message, the content, the readers, and for the people those readers work with.

As a ministry, commit it to God in the same way you would anything else.

If what you actually want to do is journal, then journal instead. If, however, you are advertising a public blog and producing content that shapes and informs people’s lives in ministry, then give it that same attention you would if those people were in the room with you.

Pray like you mean it, like you respect it, and like you want it to genuinely serve.

Thanks folks. I hope you found something helpful in there. I don’t always get these right (in fact, some times I get none of these right!) but they’re all well worth the effort and the time.

 

Blogging on the Sabbath – a call to digital rest.

“If you can’t take a nap, if you can’t take a day off, heaven’s going to drive you nuts.” [Mark Driscoll]

I first heard the concept of an ‘electric sabbath’ from Rob Bell during his drops like stars tour. The idea was to have an entire digital shutdown one day a week: No phone, no internet, no email, no streaming.

For some of us, myself included, this feels like shutting down a significant portion of our lives. We are left weightless and wallowing, bumping into walls while we try to remember the basic human mechanics of being AFK (let the nerd understand).

Our digital worlds have become a significant space for intellectual, emotional and social stimuli, and as such we move around them with both personality and identity. We leave digital fingerprints.

These digital fingerprints are unique, because they have been cultivated daily – perhaps even hourly – as some form of organic representation of who we are in this parallel online word. However accurate that representation is, and however tangible we believe that world to be are disputable, but no less a reality. We have basically created an extra limb – one that pulls to us when we don’t use it.

As a blogger with a reasonable online presence, this pulls at me in the ‘waking world’ with quite some insistence.

The refresh button and revisiting the same social media walls becomes an almost unconscious activity. I’ve had whole days when I have neglected the needs of my spirit, family, and work, because my head had been firmly wired into an unguarded twitter comment.

So, I suggest a pact. Let’s give ourselves a digital sabbath. A day away from the crawling needs and desires of our digital realm. I suggest a fast, a time when we climb down from our fickle electric thrones and embrace the wholeness of the world without it.

The irony of this post is that I’m writing it on a Sunday morning. In 45 minutes, I’ll be preaching. Wouldn’t this time have been better spent by… praying, meditating, preparing, talking to my wife, eating breakfast (you fill in the gap).

Growing in closeness to God requires some care taken over spiritual disciplines like praying and Bible reading. For spiritual disciplines to work, however, they require both spirit and discipline. Neither of these can be nurtured entirely without any level of sacrifice or – put another way – fasting.

A fast is saying no to something that our body or our ego needs, in order to recognise the level of dependency that we have in God.

When you’re sat in the office and it’s nearing lunchtime and your stomach is rumbling with anticipation, but then you suddenly remember that you’re fasting, a lead weight drops. You feel a sense of loss and almost desperation. This empty longing is a growth metaphor for how we need to long for God. That’s why fasting exists. We use that feeling and turn it into prayers of dependence on and recognition of who God is – and who we would be without Him.

I have a small, A5 presentation folder that I use for preaching. I’ve had it since I was first at Bible College and saw everyone else using them. I stopped using it almost ten years ago in favour of iPads and my MacBook (the Holy Spirit comes when there’s Apple products on stage right?) Recently, however, I rediscovered my little preaching folder and started using it again.

One of the reasons I use it now is the little inscription on the front page that I put there while in College. It says:

“You have offended God infinitely more than ever a stubborn rebel did his prince – and yet it is nothing but his hand that holds you from falling into the fire every moment.” [Jonathan Edwards, 1703 – 1757]

This is a heavy and somewhat brutal quote that says there is nothing apart from but God and His grace to uphold me  minute by minute. I am not my own, I was bought at a price, and it so important to me to reconnect with Him each day afresh. It’s important for me to recognise the depths from which He has saved me, and more the depths of need I have for Him each day.

That’s why we fast. That’s why we occasional withdraw.

The internet is noisy, and our digital fingerprints pull at us constantly. Perhaps a day off a week is not too much to ask to keep these things in check.

A digital sabbath. I think I might have a go!

 

 

Is UK youth ministry too American and too male? – A response.

I love the blogosphere in youth ministry. It’s really important to have regular conversing voices on the table sharpening our work. One of the better youth ministry blogs out there is James Ballentine’s. James is a great thinker with bags of experience. I particularly would like to recommend:

What if our youth practices are the trigger for young peoples challenging behaviour.

What role do you want young people to have in church?

and

Accepting rest amid the storm

Last weekend James published an important challenge about American influence and male dominance over youth ministry – particularly in publishing. It was a stark challenge, and I think he is absolutely right! Many people have engaged with the post on twitter, and I’m glad that it is gaining traction.

I’m James’ brother on both of his issues, however I feel that without recognising some omissions he made, a reader could easily assume that I’m his opponent. This is not the case, and for posterity I would like to make that abundantly clear.

I stand with him on both issues – particularly the second. Youth workers, we must do better to support the immense and important ministry of our highly gifted and qualified sisters in Christ. Sometimes that just means us getting out of the way, but other times, like James has, we need to make noise.

The unfortunate thing, however, is that James used a recent post of mine as a springboard into his two points, and – I’m sure unintentionally – made me look like a bit of a negative poster-boy of those issues.

I think this is a little unfortunate. I’m sure James didn’t mean to hurt me or steer people into labelling me either. Perhaps in his rush to get to the meat of the issue, I just suffered the whip of his brevity.

In that vein I’d like to post a couple of clarifications in the hope that gracious conversation and level hearts will prevail.

(Quick note: I sent this to James before posting, and he responded incredibly graciously and humbly. Full credit to him!)

American Influence

Yup. Bang on! Youth ministry is a multi-million-dollar exercise across the pond, and frankly it only gets the financial dregs over here in the UK. The differences between the two are significant.

A while back I wrote this post – identifying just a few of the differences we should be aware of. It’s not a full picture, and – as someone rightly pointed out to me recently – it woefully neglects the specific issues of gender, race, and disability. There’s obviously much more to be said.

It’s also important to understand that YouthWorkHacks is read by an equal mix of both US and UK practitioners, and my list intentionally reflects that readership.

Selective use of my post

James’ post bypasses my careful and specific mentions of American influence.

Most importantly under the heading ‘Elephants in the room’ I write:

“Some books I’ve missed out not because they’re unsound or unhelpful, but because they really only work for an American context, and prove less useful over here in the UK. They include Purpose Driven Youth Work by Doug Fields and This Way to Youth Ministry by Duffy Robbins. Great books in their place, but that place is probably not post-Christendom 21st Century UK.”

Also, under Senter I write: “it needs to be read alongside something like Pete Ward’s Growing Up Evangelical for a UK perspective.”

And under Fields: “it’s probably more helpful for an American context, or for bigger churches, but still full of wise tidbits nonetheless.”

I think it’s an oversight to not mention any of this awareness when highlighting the list for being heavily American influenced.

The list in my post reflects the nature of the publishing market – which I think is the better thing to critique, rather than my favourite few from it.

Finally, I’m sure the five American authors in the list would themselves like me to point out that, in the case of all but Doug Fields, they are strong advocates against traditional American youth ministry. Their books (particularly DeVries) are actually very helpful for a UK context regardless of their origin.

Women authorship

I am a passionate advocate for women in Youth Ministry. My young people need their voices, and so do I as a leader.

This is why over half of the contributors to YouthWorkHacks are women. My own book includes two amazing sidebars written by women: Dr. Sam Richards and Rachel Turner. You can see a little more of my heart for women in youth ministry – along with more on the extent of the problem – here.

That said, more can and should be done, and I’m in a position of influence to give more ears to the issue. I’m happy to do so and James has challenged me to do exactly that.

The issue again, however, is the shape of the market, not my selections from it.

Very few youth ministry books are authored by women, although there are fabulous titles written by women (God-bearing Life by Kenda Creasy Dean, or Youthwork by Sally Nash for instance). This is slightly easier in the family’s ministry world. The only books I mentioned in my post under this category are written by women: “Check out anything by Rachel Turner, or the classic Family Ministry by Diana Garland.”

I would also like to take this opportunity to celebrate the amazing women heading up a lot of the accredited youth ministry training in the UK. This includes Alice Smith at St. Mellitus, Alia Pike at Nazarene, Mel Lacey at Oak Hill, Dr. Sally Nash at CYM, and – until very recently (soon to be Dr.) Carolyn Edwards at Cliff College, and now York Diocese. There’s a significant amount of influence in shaping the development of future practitioners. The extent of their reach is exponential and I look forward to more books because of it!

James is right though. We all have to do better, and I would like to be a part of the effort.

Conclusion

James is bang on about the issues, however I felt compelled to write this to show that I’m with him and not against him.

I’m glad James posted the link to my original post, but without reading that, or knowing me personally, and without any statement from James to the contrary, the reader will likely equate me with those issues, which I think is unfair.

I hope I have done enough here to show that these issues have been with me already for some time, which is why I appreciate James’ fiery passion, and want to stand with him on the front line.

In Christ.

Tim

(Quick note: I sent this to James before posting, and he responded incredibly graciously and humbly. Full credit to him!)

The Pupil, the Pastor, the Professor, and the dead kitty – A one-act play.

Scene: The trying -slightly-too-hard-to-be-cool community coffeeshop that’s attached to the local Bible College. Professor and Pastor are making small talk over lattes.

Enter pupil

Pupil – Professor, Pastor, I have a question.

Professor and Pastor, together in excited unison – Of course!

Pupil – My little cat Whiskers died last night. Will I see her again in Heaven?

Pastor – Oh my poor, poor… poor dear. That’s so sad. Aw, no. So sad indeed. Oh dear, my poor dear. I’m so sorry for your loss. Was poor Whiskers in your family a long time? Was it very sudden? Was she in much pain? Oh, I’m so, so sorry my poor dear!

Pupil – Um, thanks Pastor, that’s nice. But you didn’t really answer my question.

Professor – Maybe I can help you my young fruit. No. No you will not. Animals of the feline variety are not human, and thus – like humans – do not have existential existence beyond the finite and physical reality of this world. What you call a ‘Whiskers’ is simply the over-emotional and irrational construct of an inanimate lifeform without a soul or indeed any sense of self. Your attachment to her is delusional and entrenched in the sinfully depraved nature of humanity. You will not see, her or indeed any kitty, puppy, bunny, or even Bulgarian budgie in the eternal rest. You should stop mourning immediately. Perhaps you should repent?

Pupil is in shocked silence with her mouth hanging slightly open, making mumbling starts at trying to speak again.

Pastor – Urm, well, I think what my learned colleague is trying to say is that poor, sad Whiskers, who was such an important part of your life and family, and whose life was tragically cut short, in fact does have a soul, because she was bought to life when you loved her. Your love will continue forever into Heaven, and so your love for poor Whiskers will see her bought to life – resurrected even – in Heaven! She is in a better place because you loved her.

Pupil, raising a finger gently – Oh. Ok… but wh…

Professor (interrupting) – Well, actually, it may be that what Pastor is failing to tell you truthfully, is that your love is a poor, dim reflection of the Creator’s, and so can’t possibly create anything – and especially not in Heaven. What an absurd idea indeed! Your love is sinful, and that damned cat never loved you anyway! No. Whiskers is gone. Dead as a post. Demised, deceased, perhaps decapitated, and gone for ever. She never really ‘was’. Deal with it.

Pastor, turning to Professor and standing – how can you be so insensitive? This poor young girl has lost a treasured member of her family!

Professor, also standing, pushing Pupil aside facing off to Pastor – well how can you be so deceptive. It helps the girl nothing by lying to her!

Professor and Pastor continue in this vein, their voices steadily getting higher and more intense, while the other coffeeshop patrons awkwardly stare intently into their grande mugs.

Pupil slowly slips away unnoticed.

 

A reader’s digest history of youth ministry

For the history-nuts among us, I thought I would put out a readers-digest of the history of modern youth ministry. This includes a few significant social-historical events that have genuinely influenced the direction and shape of Western Youth Ministry that we see today.

Have fun!

18th-19th Century

Age-specific ministry began during The Industrial Revolution when children worked six-day weeks instead of receiving formal education. In response Robert Raikes developed Sunday School, an age-segregated environment that taught religion and literacy. Sunday Schools replaced the larger ‘children’s church’ meetings that existed, streaming them into smaller age groups.

When state-mandated midweek education took over teaching in the 1870s, Sunday Schools became purely Bible focused.

Following this, The Society of Christian Endeavour (SCE) was founded as a participative, relationship-oriented gathering to help older children transition into church. SCE meetings tended to be large, sometimes multi-denominational, mid-day gathering of young people into their twenties with Bible study around a meal. It grew quickly and was well integrated into the life of the church.

Pre WW2

The SCE movement grew until the 1940s when it was overshadowed by parachurch organisations. This was the beginning of the end of the SCE meetings.

During this time, psychologists had just presented the ground-breaking concept of Adolescence (G. Stanley Hall, 1941), which became more potent in the zeitgeist as drafted young people left home to fight in wars.

By the close of World War II, increasing secularisation was drawing adolescents away from the church, resulting in the need for a more dramatic and intentional missional response to young people.

1940s – 1970s

Denominationally-specific youth fellowships tried to do this with mixed success. It was the parachurch groups Youth for Christ (YFC) and Young Life (YL) that took centre stage. By this point the SCE movement had been totally replaced and had all but disappeared from churches.

YFC led contextually accessible rallies for thousands of young people. YL, however, focused on individual relationship-building. They emphasised ‘winning the right to be heard’, by which they meant ‘gain[ing] the friendship and respect of students before expecting them to listen to the claims of Christ’ (Mark Senter, When God Shows Up, 2010, p.220). This was the first instance of incarnational youth ministry. It was in the 1950s that YL first used that term.

Going back to the 1910 Edinburgh World Mission’s Conference, two Missiologists referenced something called the missio Dei as part of the Church’s mission. Missio Dei, or ‘the mission of God’, reconfigured mission from being church-based (they come to us) to being culture-based (we go to them). This use of missio Dei came to prominence in the 1960s and both YFC and YL grew up saturated in its convictions.

By this part of the 20th Century, the Salvation Army began using choruses on the streets in evangelism, which soon developed into songs in their own right. By the 1950s, these choruses abounded. This – mixed with a sudden evangelical mission to young people in Britain and the Jesus Movement’s desire to embrace the music of culture in America – created entirely new forms of Christian music. This music fashioned an early bridge between the Charismatic renewal of the 70s and the Restoration movement of the 80s, culminating in the ground-breaking and ecumenical hymnbook, Songs of Fellowship. Off the back of this came the rise of Christian bands and alternative youth sub-culture. D.C. Talk were perhaps the most prolific of this kind in America.

1980s

Youth ministry in the following decades developed depersonalised programming in tension with personal relationship-building. Often these represented different strategies and clashed when they came together.

By the late 80s, John Wimber’s visits to St. Andrew’s Chorley Wood gave rise to New Wine and Soul Survivor alongside the already popular Spring Harvest. These festivals gathered a broad range of traditions together and united them through music. They showed that music was a relevant factor in unifying diverse Christian groups, and that it was essential in engaging specifically with the culture of young people.

These large events across Britain (Spring Harvest, New Wine, Soul Survivor) echoed the contextual attraction of early YFC rallies. The ‘worship leader’ became the hero of youth ministry and mission culture, and especially in the UK was supported by popular bands such as Delirious and The World Wide Message Tribe.

In the 80s and 90s, the techniques of these organisations were emulated in some wealthy churches, which then eventually trickled down to the rest of us, creating the modern church-based ‘youth pastor’. These youth pastors developed much of the standard project templates that we use today.

In 1988, Resolution 43 from the Lambeth Conference called ‘the closing years of this millennium a “Decade of Evangelism” with a renewed and united emphasis on making Christ known to the people of his world’.

1990s

by the early 90s contextual church planting, rather than youth-driven initiatives had become the accepted approach to local mission. Building on Resolution 43, the report Breaking New Ground established church planting strategies to ‘underchurched’ areas (1994:9) to ‘attract those who do not normally attend worship’ (35). It was the first widely reported Anglican document that grappled ‘positively’ with how postmodernity might affect how we ‘do church’.

During this time ‘Missional Church’ entered vocabulary, and George Lings began to document examples of contextualised, missional church planting in the Church of England to inspire others in Encounters on the Edge (1999-present). This all sowed early seeds for Fresh Expressions.

In the mid 1990’s with contextualized, relational mission now firmly in the church zeitgeist, there was a resurgence of detached relational work. In America this was driven by the work of Andy Borgman, and in the UK, it was Pete Ward. This represented the ‘second wave’ of incarnational youth ministry with a greater focus on culture.

In the late 90s, early proponents of intergenerational ministry began to publish as an alternative to the two most popular models of the time; incarnational and funnel youth ministry. They (perhaps unknowingly) were recreating some form of the SCE movement. This was a direct response to what they saw as an increasing segregation between ‘church’ and ‘youth’.

2000s

Fresh Expressions – most notably Messy Church, and Café Church – began to gain traction across a few mainstream denominations. A decade after Breaking New Ground came the 2004 Mission-shaped Church [MSC] report. Where Breaking New Ground saw church planting and early forms of fresh expressions as ‘supplements’ to Anglican life which sustained the parish system (Bayes, 2006:10), MSC saw them as entities effectively separate to the governing life of the parish (2004:xi, 12). This — along with supporting Bishops Mission Orders (2007; updated 2008, 2012) — gave Fresh Expressions recognition as authorised ‘expressions’ of the Anglican Church and therefore the ability to define liturgy, leadership, and practices outside the usual confines of Anglican Law.

From MSC came the officially branded Fresh Expressions movement. This was an ecumenical approach to British mission that included six major denominations and three well-known charities as partners. This was the far reaching and widely embraced result of a five-decade paradigm shift. Youth Ministry – as we know it today – largely grew up in this context. It became to be seen by many circles as an informal and broad form of Fresh Expression. This is important considering its projects had pioneered many of the practices largely adopted by the wider spectrum of Fresh Expressions.

Moving our focus back to America, in the 2000s new thinkers revisited incarnational youth ministry with some fresh ideas, most notably Andrew Root and Kendra Creasy-Dean. This was the third wave of incarnational youth ministry. The missional perspective of the church as a whole, however, started to shift its focus to ‘the missing generation’ of 20s and 30s. This was arguably the generation failed by the last decades of youth ministry. Because of this, these key incarnational authors started to branch out, and – especially in the case of Root – began writing to the wider church, rather than simply youth workers.

The popularity of the festivals of the 90s continued into the 2000s and became increasingly blended with an aim to reach young people while engaging with youth culture more specifically. This development was been influenced by modern recording-house based project churches such as Hillsong, Bethel and Jesus Culture.

The Emerging Church Movement of the late 90s and early 2000s took brief centre stage and saw the church as a poor representation of what it was supposed to be. They said it had, as a result, produced shallow or false Christians. Figures like Rob Bell had a strong influence on youth workers – thus youth ministries – across America and the UK.

The last decade

Youth ministry back in America still enjoyed a vibrant training and resourcing market, however in the UK, the number of youth ministers lasting beyond one contract dropped dramatically, and many churches stopped raising money for it. Conferences came and went, and the church started to look with renewed vigor at new missional ideas such as pioneering ministry theory and Fresh Expressions (which in this decade developed partnerships among almost all major denominations in the UK).

There are fewer youth ministers in the UK and fewer people in youth ministry training in the UK than there was ten years ago; however, it must be noted that there were many more ten years ago than there were twenty years ago. We haven’t seen an exponential drop, but rather a spike alongside the missional renewal of the 90s.

There are still great charities and groups offering quality resourcing (Like Youth for Christ, Youthscape, Urban Saints etc.), but the local church youth pastor – upon the models of the last few decades – is certainly struggling.

The future?

Youth Ministry today is a very different beast to it was in the mid 90s, which in turn was different to the 60s-80s, which was also different to the pre-1940s, and different again from the industrial revolution. All these, however, have played an important part in the almost-Frankenstein’s monster of youth ministry approaches we have in the UK today. It is a rich historic tapestry indeed!

Change certainly needs to happen. Youth Ministry needs sounder theological foundations, a clearer relationship with church, a realistic approach to mission, a bold stance both within and outside culture, and a much more solid united identity. It’s still very tribal, a little bit ritualistic, very segregated from the wider body, and (at least in my opinion) is in many cases as deep as a teaspoon.

I’m encouraged, however, to know that as a movement, Youth Ministry is still very young, so there is still lots of clarity to be had, and growth to happen. We are infants, but growth comes with growing, not just groaning.

We don’t have things like the Reformation to look back on as a melting pot for healthy practices to emerge and be challenged by. We don’t have hundreds of years of trial and error to perfect the ultimate ‘lock in.’ We don’t have ancient ecclesiastical giants to look up to as archetypal youth pastors (with perhaps the exception of Mike Yaconelli!). We’re still babies.

Although ministry among young people was happening in some form before the 1940s it was largely part of a broader whole; over-specialisation and the unhelpful compartmentalism we experience today are largely traits of the 20th Century. We may need to go back a little to go forward a lot.

If we want youth ministry to thrive, and for there to be serious competition in the positions we create, then the whole church collective needs to work together towards biblically solid foundations for its future. We need to pull together, not keep looking for tribalized wedge-issues to separate us. There is nothing less than the glory of God and the salvation of young people on the line. Let’s do this together!

I imagine in the years to come that youth ministry will be largely supported by ‘tent-making’ jobs, and (I hope) will learn towards a facilitation model where the worker’s main responsibility will be the enabling of the wider church to do mission and ministry among young people. The future will tell!

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